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Nobody wants decent average guy in this city. Just the other day at work someone was dating a married guy who graduated from an ivy league school. I over heard that she had to to go to a clinic to find out if if she is pregnant for this guy. Even though this guy is married she really likes him. These Mr. Big shot guys can have any woman however it doesn't translate into something longterm.
I don't know...I did. My BF wasn't a six figure investment banker....Maybe that's why I don't fit in here in NYC, I just don't understand the mentality. lol
I would not consider someone like that a failure at all. Not right for me, but definitely no loser in life. He just will max out at that number... and that is not hot to all of us, a guy on a board of education claiming that as his great accomplishment. For someone looking to start a humble family in Anytown, U.S.A. this is basically the American Dream. In NYC, it's more like barely surviving. So have a frame of reference please.
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Originally Posted by EastBoundandDownChick
It is almost guaranteed you at some point will live with crazy people upon relocating here unless you are well-off and/or well-connected. I dealt with some roommates that were rude, inconsiderate, ignorant and just completely batsh*t crazy. I didn't really have a choice. It was either that or stay back home and stagnate. Eventually I was able to get my own place. Let me tell you that can be just as bad, if it's not a place you'd ideally want to live. It takes a very long time here to find a good living situation and that is typical unless you are one of the Golden People. I wasn't.
I hated my solo apartment so much I actually did the unthinkable and broke the lease early. I basically ditched the Bronx solo for MANHATTAN again with a ROOMMATE.
But until you can afford 3K a month for rent you may just want to keep that roommate thing going, but not where you have your name on the primary lease.
You can't even afford your own one bedroom in the city. LOL. Get the hell outta' here with that nonsense.
All I know is that hundreds of thousands of young women are graduating college this month and most do not have jobs lined up and will probably move to big cities like Nyc for opportunity and for a hubby that's if they can find one.
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I have asked myself a million times, why is it so difficult to meet Mr. Right in NYC? What am I doing wrong? I don't think that I'm asking for too much, typically I look for guys that have a similar background as myself. I am interested in finding a nice guy who is loving, caring, spiritually inclined, family oriented, ambitious, and professional.
Perhaps it's my age that is working against me. I'm 36! Is it too late for me to meet the right guy, get married and have a family? Should I pack my bags and head for Texas or is it still possible to find love and committment in NYC?
Well it's hard to meet someone who dings off all of those things you mentioned. It just is. And the ones who ding off all of those are taken for the most part or were married and might not want to deal with being in serious relationships anymore. You are far from the only woman in this position though. Don't beat yourself up too much now...
A lot of it isn't your fault though. This city is not family friendly, so many people over time do not make that a priority.
I have also noticed...rich marries rich. Most of the time. They just hang in the same circles and pair off. Noticed it with people I went to school with and people I worked with as well.
I would not consider someone like that a failure at all. Not right for me, but definitely no loser in life. He just will max out at that number... and that is not hot to all of us, a guy on a board of education claiming that as his great accomplishment. For someone looking to start a humble family in Anytown, U.S.A. this is basically the American Dream. In NYC, it's more like barely surviving. So have a frame of reference please.
Lol, this is not a good look for you. But hey do you.
You can live a very comfortable lifestyle at that salary, yes even here in NYC.
try speed dating, if the right person, it just clicks, if not its not meant to be
Speed dating is terrible. A big problem with stuff like this and online dating is that it reinforces many of the quick judgments that lead to people being single for long periods of time.
All I know is that hundreds of thousands of young women are graduating college this month and most do not have jobs lined up and will probably move to big cities like Nyc for opportunity and for a hubby that's if they can find one.
Speed dating is terrible. A big problem with stuff like this and online dating is that it reinforces many of the quick judgments that lead to people being single for long periods of time.
Speed dating is like a job interview. It's either if she finds you physically attractive or have a lot of money.
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! Is it too late for me to meet the right guy, get married and have a family? Should I pack my bags and head for Texas or is it still possible to find love and committment in NYC?
