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OK, in an effort to help you figure out why all your money seems to be disappearing, I browsed your posting history and I solved the problem: YOU ARE MOVING TOO MUCH.
In the span of less than 2 years, I counted that you lived in 5 locations.
prior to August 2013- Manhattan
August 2013 - left Manhattan to live in Greenpoint
Sept 2013 - moved to the Bronx
April 2014 - moved from the Bronx to Manhattan
November 2014 - living in Rego Park
August 2013
Sept 2013
April 2014
November 2014
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OK, in an effort to help you figure out why all your money seems to be disappearing, I browsed your posting history and I solved the problem: YOU ARE MOVING TOO MUCH.
In the span of less than 2 years, I counted that you lived in 5 locations.
prior to August 2013- Manhattan
August 2013 - left Manhattan to live in Greenpoint
Sept 2013 - moved to the Bronx
April 2014 - moved from the Bronx to Manhattan
November 2014 - living in Rego Park
August 2013
Sept 2013
April 2014
November 2014
This girl sure stirs the pot when she posts huh LOLOL
I consider leaving at times. I make 90K a year but feel poor. My rent is obscene, this is in Rego Park, Queens btw. I know I'm most likely never going to make more than 130-150K IF I am even that lucky. I contribute very little to my retirement because I simply don't have it. After paying rent, groceries and health care costs I am lucky to go out even a few times a month. I work more than I should for what I have. Like 80 hours a week. Which is why I haven't posted recently. I go home every night exhausted and lately have been wondering what's the point in staying? The men have been terrible as well. Abused in my last relationship as well as cheated on. He literally told me I was lucky he even dated me and that he was doing me a favor giving me the time of day. Men of previous generations did not talk to women this way I don't think. I know because I talked to my grandmother about it and she said she had never heard of something so awful and vulgar. I am also verbally harassed in the streets by similar such men on a routine basis irregardless of how I dress. Telling me how fun it would be to try and get me pregnant. That I look like I'd be an 'awesome f**k'. That my butt is magical. This does not happen in other parts of the country I have lived, nor is it acceptable in any way.
You feel poor at making 90k? Most New Yorkers single New Yorkers don't even make that much amount of money, even New Yorker famiilies combined husband and wife don't make an income like that but yet you still feel poor? Then again you probably work two or three jobs to fuel your transient lifestyle. Going out a few times a month will burn a hole through your purse. You should cut down on your spending habits or pay for a financial advisor which you can afford. Maybe download and iPhone app which helps control your spending and how much can you save a month. Men in NYC are thirsty, most parts of the country everyone drives and the cat calls decline, also men across the country are way more super duper shallow than anything compared to NYC. Your butt is magical? I wonder what goes up there that makes it so magical?
You feel poor at making 90k? Most New Yorkers single New Yorkers don't even make that much amount of money, even New Yorker famiilies combined husband and wife don't make an income like that but yet you still feel poor? Then again you probably work two or three jobs to fuel your transient lifestyle. Going out a few times a month will burn a hole through your purse. You should cut down on your spending habits or pay for a financial advisor which you can afford. Maybe download and iPhone app which helps control your spending and how much can you save a month. Men in NYC are thirsty, most parts of the country everyone drives and the cat calls decline, also men across the country are way more super duper shallow than anything compared to NYC. Your butt is magical? I wonder what goes up there that makes it so magical?
BXGuy, Don't bother. It's like having a discussion with "That" person who's gonzo on the subway. Just bury your face in the paper and don't make eye contact.
I think that some people need to stop being so hard on themselves about leaving NYC. There's an insidious frame of mind that if you leave this 'center-and-ultimate-bestest-of-everything' place then you've failed.
'They're all less intelligent out there... backwater towns... flyover country... second-best cities...' These are not rational reasons to stay in NYC over somewhere else.
Rationally speaking, if you're sinking financially or being driven insane by a miserable job and grinding commute then moving to a different city is a no-brainer. You'll get some fraction of NYC's culture and amenities but you'll be getting ahead. The hard part's admitting you've compromised, but that's part of being a grown-up.
Plus, you could always come back once you have your act together.
I think that some people need to stop being so hard on themselves about leaving NYC. There's an insidious frame of mind that if you leave this 'center-and-ultimate-bestest-of-everything' place then you've failed.
'They're all less intelligent out there... backwater towns... flyover country... second-best cities...' These are not rational reasons to stay in NYC over somewhere else.
Rationally speaking, if you're sinking financially or being driven insane by a miserable job and grinding commute then moving to a different city is a no-brainer. You'll get some fraction of NYC's culture and amenities but you'll be getting ahead. The hard part's admitting you've compromised, but that's part of being a grown-up.
Plus, you could always come back once you have your act together.
You have a great point.
To add to that, I believe that many of the things that NYC offered exclusively in days past have been co-opted by the web (in a positive way for those outside of NYC).
Operations like Amazon, online video streaming services, Uber, Groupon, etc. are bringing big city amenities to the entire country.
Large cities are beneficial in that they make use of economies of scale to either bring in services which aren't profitable elsewhere (and therefore cannot exist) or to lower the price of existing services. For many services the internet has made the need to be based in larger cities unnecessary.
One major assumption held by many which is completely wrong is that internal migration and capital inflows (from other US states) is a major boon to NYC. It is not. A major boon is foreign immigration and capital inflows.
Texas and Florida have greater inflows of internal migration. ON a percent of population basis NY is even lower.
To add to that, I believe that many of the things that NYC offered exclusively in days past have been co-opted by the web (in a positive way for those outside of NYC).
Operations like Amazon, online video streaming services, Uber, Groupon, etc. are bringing big city amenities to the entire country.
Large cities are beneficial in that they make use of economies of scale to either bring in services which aren't profitable elsewhere (and therefore cannot exist) or to lower the price of existing services. For many services the internet has made the need to be based in larger cities unnecessary.
One major assumption held by many which is completely wrong is that internal migration and capital inflows (from other US states) is a major boon to NYC. It is not. A major boon is foreign immigration and capital inflows.
Texas and Florida have greater inflows of internal migration. ON a percent of population basis NY is even lower.
There's no replicating big city services like mass transit, having grocery stores, gyms, major hospitals, and other amenities and retailers within WALKING distance.
Amazon, Uber, etc are used by people everywhere, big city and small town alike.
There's no replicating big city services like mass transit, having grocery stores, gyms, major hospitals, and other amenities and retailers within WALKING distance.
Amazon, Uber, etc are used by people everywhere, big city and small town alike.
Think this through. Major hospitals? Really? How many times do you go to a hospital? Should we all live next to military bases in case of invasion?
There's nothing in inherently good about mass transit (or cars), grocery stores, gyms, etc. They are all a means to an end.
Why do I need mass transit if my cost of owning a car is on par or even 20% greater than mass transit? In NYC, mass transit is a "winner" (if we ignore the horrible service and mismanagement of the MTA) because the cost of owning a car is so high (mainly due to insurance costs and parking costs/hassles). I refuse to own a car in NYC not because I love the MTA so much but because I refuse to subsidize all of the idiots driving like maniacs and having parking turn into an ordeal day in and day out.
If you've traveled anywhere in the world with an underground system you would know how utterly POS the NYC subway system is. For a first class city, NYC has a 2nd rate metro system and that's not debatable. Go to Seoul or Tokyo or London or Moscow or Istanbul or Berlin. Save me all of the excuses as well about how complicated and intricate the NYC system is. That doesn't matter. It's woefully inefficient considering public transportation is supposed to be the opposite.
Having something within walking distance is only important if one doesn't have a car and the transit system is unreliable (MTA, anyone?; same trip might take 45 min or 1:15, flip a coin). If you had to drive even 10-15 minutes to where you wanted to be you wouldn't care. Whether I walk 15 minutes of drive 15 minutes is inconsequential. When I visit family in Ellicot City, MD or Boulder, CO and have to drive 15 minutes to a store, I don't reminisce about how much I miss the MTA. If you would then you've got mental issues.
Amazon, Uber, etc. have a greater impact on smaller locales. Bigger cities have always had more services/amenities but these web based operations are bringing big city convenience to the smaller guys. As more and more services move to the web, smaller cities will benefit from having access to more and more services that they otherwise couldn't tap in to.
I don't need to live in NYC anymore in order to visit a bookstore with tens of thousands of books. I can go to Amazon and access millions. I don't need to to live in NYC anymore in order to order to have access to delivery take -out, I can just go on Seamless.I don't need to live in NYC in order to have the ability to call a cab/ride service, I can use Uber. I don't have to live in NYC in order to catch the latest exclusive release, I can just download it off of the web! Do you see the beauty?
What NYC has is access to jobs within certain sectors, the food scene (most are bad/cliche anyway), and the nightlife. That is indisputable. Past that, we're not that special. On the other hand we have to deal with certain problems that others don't. It's a trade-off.
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Think this through. Major hospitals? Really? How many times do you go to a hospital? Should we all live next to military bases in case of invasion?
There's nothing in inherently good about mass transit (or cars), grocery stores, gyms, etc. They are all a means to an end.
Why do I need mass transit if my cost of owning a car is on par or even 20% greater than mass transit? In NYC, mass transit is a "winner" (if we ignore the horrible service and mismanagement of the MTA) because the cost of owning a car is so high (mainly due to insurance costs and parking costs/hassles). I refuse to own a car in NYC not because I love the MTA so much but because I refuse to subsidize all of the idiots driving like maniacs and having parking turn into an ordeal day in and day out.
If you've traveled anywhere in the world with an underground system you would know how utterly POS the NYC subway system is. For a first class city, NYC has a 2nd rate metro system and that's not debatable. Go to Seoul or Tokyo or London or Moscow or Istanbul or Berlin. Save me all of the excuses as well about how complicated and intricate the NYC system is. That doesn't matter. It's woefully inefficient considering public transportation is supposed to be the opposite.
Having something within walking distance is only important if one doesn't have a car and the transit system is unreliable (MTA, anyone?; same trip might take 45 min or 1:15, flip a coin). If you had to drive even 10-15 minutes to where you wanted to be you wouldn't care. Whether I walk 15 minutes of drive 15 minutes is inconsequential. When I visit family in Ellicot City, MD or Boulder, CO and have to drive 15 minutes to a store, I don't reminisce about how much I miss the MTA. If you would then you've got mental issues.
Amazon, Uber, etc. have a greater impact on smaller locales. Bigger cities have always had more services/amenities but these web based operations are bringing big city convenience to the smaller guys. As more and more services move to the web, smaller cities will benefit from having access to more and more services that they otherwise couldn't tap in to.
I don't need to live in NYC anymore in order to visit a bookstore with tens of thousands of books. I can go to Amazon and access millions. I don't need to to live in NYC anymore in order to order to have access to delivery take -out, I can just go on Seamless.I don't need to live in NYC in order to have the ability to call a cab/ride service, I can use Uber. I don't have to live in NYC in order to catch the latest exclusive release, I can just download it off of the web! Do you see the beauty?
What NYC has is access to jobs within certain sectors, the food scene (most are bad/cliche anyway), and the nightlife. That is indisputable. Past that, we're not that special. On the other hand we have to deal with certain problems that others don't. It's a trade-off.
My dentist is at Columbia Dental School (affiliated with a major hospital). So for dental care alone, I go to the hospital twice a year. I had glacoma (sp?) in my family, so the specialists like to look at my eyes once a year. I had laser surgery last year on my eyes to get rid of my glasses, and I had to follow up with them quite frequently over a period of a couple of months. I prematurely have arthritis and have the occasional locked joint, so that was more SPECIALIST visits.
So as you can see I quite frequently go to major hospitals, and I therefore prefer living close to them. You get much better medical care there than you do from single practitioners.
Different people use different services dude, but for someone like me who does use SPECIALTY services within the medical sector frequently enough, I have no intention of driving long distances to go to a major hospital or a specialist.
I have no interest in driving 15 minutes even. I simply do not like driving. If I visit family who live in places with no mass transit, yes, I do drive. And hate every minute of it.
The condition of mass transit in Asia does not concern me, I am not Asian, nor am I European so what does on in those places that I will most likely never live in is entirely not important to my life. My life is in the USA, and more importantly in NYC. It is what it is and that is that.
Go to wherever if you want to, I wish you the best of luck. But stop pretending that your choice is the choice for everyone. Do I think that just because I love NY that is practical or viable for everyone to live here? No. But for a multitude of reasons, enough people chose to live here to make this the nation's most populous city.
And yes, everything in life is a trade off, a matter of weighing pros and cons.
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