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Old 07-23-2016, 07:46 PM
 
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What you are low key trying to say is that Indian and asian guys have a hard time attracting WHITE women.

Most indian and asian women I have met prefer their own. So that is not the real issue.

If a man cannot get at least a little attention from ladies in while living in NYC then he will have trouble everywhere he goes.
I would agree many minorities struggle dating a white women from Manhattan who is fashionable and trendy. Many of them do well within their own ethnicity, while dreaming of one day dating a white women. Many of them have no difficulty dating a foreign women of similar ethnicity (for example, an Asian women from flushing Queens would find an Asian American making six figures as highly desirable).
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Old 07-23-2016, 07:54 PM
 
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Such a silly thread
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Old 07-23-2016, 08:04 PM
 
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Such a silly thread

Oh I don't know...






These guys are why NYC’s single women are screwed | New York Post
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Old 07-23-2016, 08:11 PM
 
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I would agree many minorities struggle dating a white women from Manhattan who is fashionable and trendy. Many of them do well within their own ethnicity, while dreaming of one day dating a white women. Many of them have no difficulty dating a foreign women of similar ethnicity (for example, an Asian women from flushing Queens would find an Asian American making six figures as highly desirable).

Oh I don't know about "struggling" but see a very good number of white females of all ages with minority men all over Manhattan below Harlem. Walking around the UES and UWS you see interracial couples quite often.


There is a theory that besides old taboos breaking down many white/European females are finding the pool of eligible white, young, successful, well off to wealthy, educated, good looking, fit and so froth in NYC not large as they would imagine. Oh and make no mistake the acceptance of homosexuality including now gay marriage and parenting has impacted the number of men on the "straight" marriage or dating market.


So if many of these white females want a serious relationship that leads to marriage and a family they must start looking "down" and or to other races; that is just all there is to it.
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Old 07-23-2016, 08:16 PM
 
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What I have found though is that at least for the people living in Manhattan below 96th, pedigree makes a huge difference in who they hang out with, who they date and how they meet other people. In that regard (and this has been touched upon in other threads on CD before) I find Manhattan to be quite clique-ish and segregated. You have the yuppies that go to elite schools and then move in to areas such as Murray Hill or whatever and from the get go they have their social networks already set up and tend to meet and socialize exclusively within those circles, and if you're an outsider it's tough if not impossible to break in. By way of an example, I have a younger cousin who knows in some way or another literally everyone in her entire 7-story walkup (she's in her early 20s) as they all went to the same school or were linked to each other through friends or friends of friends. She moved in from Boston to the city a few years ago and has never had a need to make new friends or venture outside her network because it's already quite large. I'm not generalizing from just one example of course as I've noticed the same thing over and over many times with others as well.
I've kind of noticed this myself. I happened to attend one of those "elite schools" but have no part of those circles for a variety of reasons. They're a part of the reason I'm thinking more and more of leaving New York in 3 years and never looking back (at least for the rest of my 20's). Very few things get my hatred and cliques are one of them. They ruin the social atmosphere of a place and limit inclusion and openness. I doubt many people would enjoy an environment like that.
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Old 07-23-2016, 08:20 PM
 
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I would agree many minorities struggle dating a white women from Manhattan who is fashionable and trendy. Many of them do well within their own ethnicity, while dreaming of one day dating a white women. Many of them have no difficulty dating a foreign women of similar ethnicity (for example, an Asian women from flushing Queens would find an Asian American making six figures as highly desirable).
There was a thread last year from an Asian-American (of Korean descent, if I recall) where he said he's never had as much difficulty dating white women as he has while living in NYC (don't recall if he was still living here at the time of starting the thread). He said he has lived in the south and did much better with white women there than here.

It doesn't surprise me at all. On Match (which asks for ethnic preferences), I was surprised with how many white women explicitly stated a preference for white men.
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Old 07-23-2016, 08:43 PM
 
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There was a thread last year from an Asian-American (of Korean descent, if I recall) where he said he's never had as much difficulty dating white women as he has while living in NYC (don't recall if he was still living here at the time of starting the thread). He said he has lived in the south and did much better with white women there than here.

It doesn't surprise me at all. On Match (which asks for ethnic preferences), I was surprised with how many white women explicitly stated a preference for white men.

That makes sense, doesn't it? A female is likely looking for a potential husband and father of her children; thus should come as no shock even in this modern era of "equality" not every woman wants a bi-racial child. Heck gay men who can afford it travel either to the USA or Ukraine to find white/European women to act as surrogates for their children. Again things haven't changed as much as many would like to believe.
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Old 07-23-2016, 08:54 PM
 
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Oh I don't know about "struggling" but see a very good number of white females of all ages with minority men all over Manhattan below Harlem. Walking around the UES and UWS you see interracial couples quite often.
NYC is such a transient place that it difficult to measure by visual alone. Many white women who come from south and midwest are more open minded to dating outside their race compared to someone born and raised in the northeast.

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There was a thread last year from an Asian-American (of Korean descent, if I recall) where he said he's never had as much difficulty dating white women as he has while living in NYC (don't recall if he was still living here at the time of starting the thread). He said he has lived in the south and did much better with white women there than here.

It doesn't surprise me at all. On Match (which asks for ethnic preferences), I was surprised with how many white women explicitly stated a preference for white men.
It is a much more difficult comparison to make as it apple vs oranges. The level of competition and mindset is less intense in the south and midwest. In NYC you are a small fish in a big pond, while in other places you are a big fish in a small pond. Given the south and midwest has much higher obesity level and minorities would appear to be more unique given an exotic vibe compared to NYC. If you just think how absurd the competition for resources in NYC is that someone making $50k (median household salary of US) qualifies for NYCHA.
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Old 07-23-2016, 09:02 PM
 
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I've kind of noticed this myself. I happened to attend one of those "elite schools" but have no part of those circles for a variety of reasons. They're a part of the reason I'm thinking more and more of leaving New York in 3 years and never looking back (at least for the rest of my 20's). Very few things get my hatred and cliques are one of them. They ruin the social atmosphere of a place and limit inclusion and openness. I doubt many people would enjoy an environment like that.


Yes, but things have always been this way. Not just in the United States, but Europe, Asian, South American countries, where there is any sort of "elite" you generally find they keep to their own society.
That is they all know each other and marry each other.


In France parents (usually mothers) arrange parties (rallie) where all the other young children and teenagers in attendance are socially "acceptable". Children grow up knowing who makes up "la Belle Monde" for their set and rarely deviate outside of that society.


This closed society makes it very difficult for outsiders ( posers and name droppers in particular) because since everyone knows everyone else mentioning a name or place will invariably draw the response "who?". That is the first salvo over the bow telling you they know what you are saying is nonsense.
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Old 07-23-2016, 09:21 PM
 
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Article makes a good point and states what I have been saying for a while now.
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