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(1) Having trouble making friends who are very interesting/smart
I've tried:
(A) meetup.com
(B) Facebook events
Found that people who use services like this tend to be poorly calibrated socially. Any tips?
Other than doing things I like...
(2) Having trouble finding stuff to do
I'm seeking groups (ideally free) for:
(A) weight loss + workout
(B) pickup sports (with people who want ot play with me)
(C) meditation,
(D) seeing NYC, walking, running
(E) recording music
(F) random stuff
(G) being a movie nerd
It sounds like you might need to adjust your expectations. What part of the country did you come from? If you're from somewhere that people tend to be a lot more outgoing then it's easy to see why you might get that impression about New Yorkers.
Have you made any friends at work or school? Have you joined a church or synagogue? If meet-up groups aren't working out for you, these entities could offer a good vehicle for making friends.
How long have you been in the city? It takes some time to find people to hang out with regularly. I think some of what has been suggested above are good strategies. You could also volunteer, join a community sports team--or just about any activity that people your age are involved in.
I don't know if it's an option for you, but people your age like to go out a lot in bars. Check out Brooklyn.
Look up Friends of the Highline to find days when people are working as volunteers to plant or clear brush. It's outdoors and healthy.
If you're looking for "interesting/smart" look up each university (NYU, Columbia, Pace, Fordham, Brooklyn College..) for any events, films, speakers, concerts etc. that the public may attend.
You can get in a good 2-hour walk while learning about NYC neighborhoods is the Municipal Arts Society guided tours, led by experts in architecture and city planning. https://secure3.convio.net/masnyc/si...?store_id=1221 It'll give you a feel for some of the neighborhood history and changing city dynamics. It attracts other people who are curious about that, although maybe a little older than you are. You can pick a tour and try one out. In early May, they are free (Jane's Tours) but the rest of the year each tour costs $30 for nonmembers. If you like the format, there are plenty more to do all year, each in a different neighborhood.
Yoga classes are very popular with your age group.
Sign up for the NYC ID card before December 2015 so you can get a few free one-year memberships at some museums and botanical gardens. id NYC
Act on this soon, because you have to book an appointment, show up with easy documents to get your photo ID, then go activate the memberships at the various cultural institutions. Once you belong a few places, you can follow those websites to attend special member openings and special events, not a bad way to meet interesting people. Lots of museums here have free film showings, as scheduled special events on various themes.
Last edited by BrightRabbit; 09-16-2015 at 06:22 PM..
It seems odd to me that you're saying you can't find people who are smart, but the activities that you list mostly aren't ones that require smartness.
I know there's at least one good movie meet-up. And I know there's a major running club in NYC. If you work in a large company, you might be able to post a notice to see if you can put together your own group. Which you can do on Meetup, too, I think.
(1) Having trouble making friends who are very interesting/smart
I've tried:
(A) meetup.com
(B) Facebook events
Found that people who use services like this tend to be poorly calibrated socially. Any tips?
Other than doing things I like...
(2) Having trouble finding stuff to do
I'm seeking groups (ideally free) for:
(A) weight loss + workout
(B) pickup sports (with people who want ot play with me)
(C) meditation,
(D) seeing NYC, walking, running
(E) recording music
(F) random stuff
(G) being a movie nerd
Thank you for any advice!
If you are new to NYC, you will have to move to a transient NYC neighborhood where everyone from the subrubs, fresh out of college, career driven, new and love NYC. These neigborhoods are Muarry Hill, East Village, LES, Chelsea, Dumbo, Williamsburg, Fort Green, Astoria, LIC, Park Slope, Bushwick and so on. These neighborhoods are full of people like yourself who come to NYC after college and to forge something of themselves. The best way to make friends is from your job, or if you went to college, try and see if you have an college alum members in NYC.
Also NYC is not a very outdoorsy place especially since the weather is cold for most of the year so you should cross pickup sports out of the equation. Also NYC does not have nature near or around it, and nature is far from the city or in neighborhoods that are far or not so desirable for transient folks such as Pelham Bay Park in the Bronx. Tennis in NYC requires a tennis permit for example and is not pick up and play. NYC is a huge city, it is more easier to make friends and meet people in towns and small cities. This is a big city with lots of different people and archtypes. You might have to do investigating and see what type of person you are and the types of folks you hang out with. Also try to be an extrovert.
(1) Having trouble making friends who are very interesting/smart
I've tried:
(A) meetup.com
(B) Facebook events
Found that people who use services like this tend to be poorly calibrated socially. Any tips?
Other than doing things I like...
(2) Having trouble finding stuff to do
I'm seeking groups (ideally free) for:
(A) weight loss + workout
(B) pickup sports (with people who want ot play with me)
(C) meditation,
(D) seeing NYC, walking, running
(E) recording music
(F) random stuff
(G) being a movie nerd
Thank you for any advice!
Found that people who use services like this tend to be poorly calibrated socially LOL. Maybe it's you.
If you are new to NYC, you will have to move to a transient NYC neighborhood where everyone from the subrubs, fresh out of college, career driven, new and love NYC. These neigborhoods are Muarry Hill, East Village, LES, Chelsea, Dumbo, Williamsburg, Fort Green, Astoria, LIC, Park Slope, Bushwick and so on. These neighborhoods are full of people like yourself who come to NYC after college and to forge something of themselves. The best way to make friends is from your job, or if you went to college, try and see if you have an college alum members in NYC.
Also NYC is not a very outdoorsy place especially since the weather is cold for most of the year so you should cross pickup sports out of the equation. Also NYC does not have nature near or around it, and nature is far from the city or in neighborhoods that are far or not so desirable for transient folks such as Pelham Bay Park in the Bronx. Tennis in NYC requires a tennis permit for example and is not pick up and play. NYC is a huge city, it is more easier to make friends and meet people in towns and small cities. This is a big city with lots of different people and archtypes. You might have to do investigating and see what type of person you are and the types of folks you hang out with. Also try to be an extrovert.
then wtf is central park then?
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