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I've considered it often for the slower pace of life, the better apartments I could afford with my salary compared to NYC apartments.
The civility, gentility, green spaces, less stress.
However: I feel like I have a mental block against moving out of NYC.
I've lived here for over 10 years, also grew up in the area.
I feel like I've become too much of a New Yorker now to leave.
Like every other place I go seems conservative and conformist and provincial and homogenous and boring in comparison. Doesn't have the energy that the streets of NYC have.
Very close these days to just say f.. that you can keep it. I'll commute 2 hrs each way to have a pool in my backyard...wait I don't have a backyard now
For many years now. I've planned to leave several times but something always happened. most of the time it was fear, the last two times were much more practical reasons...dad got sick and passed away, and then afterward I didn't feel like I could move away from mom. now, it has been over 5 years and she is ok with it, plus we are making plans for her to leave once she retires as well.
My biggest issue now is logistics and timing. Finding a job as an out of town candidate that happens to coincide with when my lease ends is the big challenge. Oh and saving cash to move while paying NYC prices.
But if all the pieces fell into place tomorrow - Bye Felicia!
I've considered it often for the slower pace of life, the better apartments I could afford with my salary compared to NYC apartments.
The civility, gentility, green spaces, less stress.
However: I feel like I have a mental block against moving out of NYC.
I've lived here for over 10 years, also grew up in the area.
I feel like I've become too much of a New Yorker now to leave.
Like every other place I go seems conservative and conformist and provincial and homogenous and boring in comparison. Doesn't have the energy that the streets of NYC have.
I feel like NYC has ruined me for anyplace else!
Does anyone else feel like that?
I'm not surprised by your feelings. Many New Yorkers live in a bubble and actually believe that nothing comes close to New York City. That's why one oftentimes hears people say about non-New Yorkers, "they have nothing to do," and when referring to places outside of New York City, "there's nothing to do there." Or my favorite: "The bars there close early." Like a normal adult needs to be in a bar at 4:00 AM.
I have absorbed much of the "energy" NYC has to offer by living in Queens all of my life an roaming the boroughs, the sort of energy radiated from vast overcrowding, absurd public behavior, a lengthy list of no-go areas that have become and remained squalor- and crime-ridden pest holes, a public school with ~4,000 students and a graduating class of ~1000 (great place to learn, especially when half the kids bussed in to the school are flat-out losers), mass drug addiction, illiteracy, pollution, and noises.
The town I live in now in NYC is nice, but it is one of the few reservations worthy of living on for New York City. For every little enclave or reservation that is decent in NYC, there are dozens of disgusting ones.
I'm not sure what would keep someone here besides a job or a partner who doesn't want to leave. Another option is to somehow make enough money that one is so insulated from all of NYC's ills.
There are problems with every place in the world you can go to.
With that said if you really want to leave NYC you should be moving to a place wherever you can have a good life.
I would recommend you visit other places, make friends in other places, and see where it goes.
If you just dump yourself out of NYC to some strange place you've not even visited, then it would suck.
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