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Ever notice how if you look for opinions about dating in NYC of men as opposed to women - the women are consistently much less content in them? It's the high female to male ratio and the fashion industry....just my 2cents.
Also the gay populaton. They're disproportionally male and there's lots of them here. (I've never hung out with more gay dudes in my life since moving here, but they're almost always fun so why not...)
Although it does seem like there are many women here, I've never gotten impression meeting them was any more of a cakewalk here for the average straight guy than anywhere else. In Manhattan especially women often seem artificially aloof and impossible, like someone pulled them aside and told them thats how they were supposed to act here or something. I dunno, I think people are a victim of themselves most of the time.
Im a 27 y/o male and when I visit from the west coast I LOVE NYC girls because they come to ME! Its not like that in the mostly-male Left coast. And the girls TRY really hard which is refreshing compared to WC girls that expect you to fawn over them because they managed to be charming for 5 seconds. NYC is awesome if you're a young guy. (But I wonder if it was mostly due to the novelty factor that I was from out of town...I don't know).
Location: suburbs of NYC en route to southern Illinois
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I have to say that it all depends on two things:
* Your age
* Your relationship goal
If you are young and just to want to have fun, NYC offers variety of people to have fun with.
If you are not young (not necessarily mean old) and want to have something more than just casual dates, you will have a hard time, finding a desirable partner (This may be true anywhere, not just NYC).
If you are older than 35 and still single and want to live in NYC, you will only meet people who are either not capable of having a relationship or want to remain single forever.
Just my 2 cents.
Atsushi
Your 2 cents is the same as my 2 cents and others..consensus seems to be don't expect to find Mr. Right in NYC, just Mr. Right Now. Mr. Right? Probably a guy too nice for the city and lives in a small town somewhere in the midwest
Location: suburbs of NYC en route to southern Illinois
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Not in most cities but it is in New York if take the train.
Yeah, the poster obviously never took the E or F or V line before. I mean jesus h christ, Christian friggin Pitt isn't worth that torture:
Walk to train station. Walk up stairs, regretting the day you took up smoking. Wait for train. Push past crowd of people getting on train/get jostled and hope to get seat. Long ride with no seat, being jostled by people moving through train. Get off train, getting jostled by more people. Walk down stairs, regretting the day you took up smoking. Walk to location/wait for/text aforementioned romantic partner while guiltfully smoking a cigarette and being jostled by more people and if a particularly bad day, get harassed by a midget and/or ubiquitous homeless schizophrenic guy who thinks your name is Claudia and met you on another street corner last week. (He may very well turn out to be a more entertaining date than this one and most certainly less flaky and less afraid of monogamy.)
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Im a 27 y/o male and when I visit from the west coast I LOVE NYC girls because they come to ME! Its not like that in the mostly-male Left coast. And the girls TRY really hard which is refreshing compared to WC girls that expect you to fawn over them because they managed to be charming for 5 seconds. NYC is awesome if you're a young guy. (But I wonder if it was mostly due to the novelty factor that I was from out of town...I don't know).
Oh god... Have I wasted my youth and prime fertility years in a place I have no hope of being treated decently in?
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Also the gay populaton. They're disproportionally male and there's lots of them here. (I've never hung out with more gay dudes in my life since moving here, but they're almost always fun so why not...)
Although it does seem like there are many women here, I've never gotten impression meeting them was any more of a cakewalk here for the average straight guy than anywhere else. In Manhattan especially women often seem artificially aloof and impossible, like someone pulled them aside and told them that's how they were supposed to act here or something. I dunno, I think people are a victim of themselves most of the time.
My feeling is that this is a technique to ward off harassment and sort of keep to their own sense of worth in a place where that's tough. Also, the men here have the same attitude!
Its sad to see that the dating scene in NY is still pretty bad since I moved out 20 years ago. In my experience Ive found dating to be easier the further I got from NYC. For the money you spend for a club/bar you can do a low cost weekender out of the city. In my experience I met the best people from either the North shore on LI or from NJ south of New Brunswick. But I've also met most of the people I dated in conventional locations in NY. One woman I dated I met in line at the cashier for a salad bar. If you ask of your married friends they will most likely tell you that they met their spouses in a more relaxed environment
I find New Yorkers rediculously geo-centric when it comes to relationships. Rarely would friends in Manhattan date someone in Queens, or anyone on earth date anyone from Staten Island.
10-15 miles isn't a long distance relationship in my book.
This might because most "New Yorkers" who live Manhattan are not from NYC and come here because they are outcasts from wherever they came from. They have a very unrealistic view of life and this includes dating.
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