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People don't want to hear the truth if it's not what they invision to be so. A lot (not all) of the people moving down here really don't see any problems. Many just believe that everything will be better once they move south and escape the evilness that is the northeast. If they were to take a reality check they'd realize that as with everthing, there are tradeoffs..... depending on the individual, some can be worth it, while others are not. For me personaly , AFTER moving and living down here for a long time, I realized the tradeoff of not being near family was most definitely NOT worth it, and that's why I'm moving back.
Well said. For me, I was under the impression that moving to another state was basically like moving from 1 town to another. Boy, was I wrong. Also, I was under the impression that all laws are "basically" the same in all states. I'm young and obviously, I have alot to learn.. Thank God for the "computer" and all those sharing "truthful" information...
I think that is the biggest misconception for people moving south. They think they are miving to place similar to where they live, just with better weather and lower taxes. That was what I was expecting when I moved and boy was I wrong.
I hope bundydad has a think skin.
I grew up in Suburban Detroit and ended up in NC for 12 years after College.
My experience there was similar to many of the previous posters in this thread. If you like diversity and education and cultural experiences, then steer clear of NC. I found that no matter how long you live there, you will always be a Yankee. The only Northern people who I knew there who really adapted, were the ones who were as active in Talking Junk about the North as the locals. If you had two people in town who were SOBs and one was from up north. The point was always made that it was because he was a Yankee, while with the local yokel, it was just "their way." Had a guy tell me one time that he hated Duke's basketball team. I asked why. He said because coach K is a Northerner and a Yankee. I really got sick and tired of it. Believe me the civil war is yesterday to many of the home grown folks.
Also, I found that though people talk so much about the Weather, I actually ended doing less out of doors than when i lived up North. The summers are so freaking hot and humid and the winters are so wet, that you kind of live inside.
Additionally, I agree that it is a very isolated kind of life. The people in the Western part of the state (i spent 5 years there) are very clannish. The people in the Eastern part of the state (7 years there), are downright hostile to any outsiders, even from other parts of the State!!! Never seen a place with such regional pride. I like to call it Southern Hostility.
That was my experience. Finally called it quits and moved to NYC where nobody cares where you are from.
Give me the high taxes and cold weather. I will take it anytime to provincialism and bigots.
The best thing about the South is the Ice Tea and free refills on your drinks (translation soft drinks).
I'm almost relieved that I have found so many people that feel the same way about the south that I do. I thought I was just homesick, and people would think I was crazy for moving back north. I guess I'm not the only crazy one.
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Funny thing is that my mom and dad were born and raised in Western NC. They moved to MI soon after they got married and lived in Suburban Detroit for 45 years. My dad had a contracting business in Ann Arbor.
My dad always had this idyllic picture of moving back to NC for retirement. Thats what they did over my moms protests. We'll, they soon regretted that they had made the move, but age and circumstances prevented them from moving back. They, especially my Dad, did not realize how much they had changed by living up north all those years. They had really become Midwesterners and just didn't fit in anymore.
I still have friends down there, but would only move back there on the threat of death! Not even sure then.
Gump, make plenty of room for the Islanders they are a coming.
I'm with you 100% It's funny because I have spoken to many who have moved down there years ago and they say it's the best decision they every made. Guess you can't please everyone.
Forest Gump,sir,your right.The same people that are making a mess out of NC and SC have messed up rural NJ,they move in with their ideas how things should be done and try to make it like where they came from.While we may or may not move South,I wouldn't have the bad manners to try to change things.Think if you were a quest in someones home,would you start changing things and making them "better"?I may come from NJ but I'm a pick-up driving,blue collar redneck,I say yes sir and no ma'am.I'm sure the good ol'boys in NY don't like what your doing to their area either.
You could not have said it better. We can't be judged the same way. I'm definitely not looking to change things, but rather adapt to the southern culture (well mannered and all). It's not right that some are ruining it for the whole bunch.
NC will be another Florida within the decade....it's so obvious. It'll price out, get too expensive, too crowded, and then people will be complaining about NC too. The sheep example is a really good metaphor, I've actually used it several times myself. That's why I ask...where are you guys all going next?
One thing to be mindful of Fl vs. NC...Fl did not have the ecomony as NC does...more companies and jobs are going there, the same does not hold true for Fl.
Florida had a TON of jobs, it was one of the first to start significantly gaining jobs again after the recession. It still has a lot of jobs, and so do NYC and Los Angeles. It's the overcrouding, rising cost of living, and subsequent lower quality of life that's driving people out of those areas. NC probably won't be as severe as FL, but it will eventually feel close to the same consequences that it is right now.
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