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Recently I moved from Binghamton to a small town upstate to bring my kids up in a better environment, but it's not turning into that. As soon as my family and I arrived we were quickley judged by how we dressed, acted, and everything else. Coming from a city, we were used to keeping to ourselves, here it's called being anti-social if you don't join in on a convo on some one down the street that doesn't even know a convo has been started about them. I'm also used to talking about sports or a movie that just started that I saw, they have no interest sometimes in those topics which is fine each their own, but if you don't comment on going to a local maplefest or chicken bbq you get strange looks and are considered arrogant for some reason. I'm often told that this is how things are and if I don't like it that this is not the place for me, when the thing is I never said I didn't like what they did, What I don't like is how they feel that my business is theirs and when you go and strike at them that is considered harrasment because of how long they've lived in the community. Just wondering if anyone has this situation and how they delt with it.
Personally I could care less what people thought of me...I don't live my life for them...
Yeah, that's what I was thinking. I'm wondering if the community is a place were many of the people have family members that have been there for a long time too.
There are some interesting threads in the "Rural and Small Town Living" forum. Moving from a larger community to a small town is like Nemo moving from the ocean to a fishbowl. It's inevitable people will notice, and make snap judgments based on real or supposed contact with other outsiders.
Smile, wave, listen but don't talk, you could be talking smack about a cousin and never know it. Eventually people will respect your interests IF you both say and show respect for theirs but you as the outsider need to put that out first.
People will feel that your business is theirs. That's inevitable, and a big part of what makes small towns safer.
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