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Old 11-26-2010, 12:59 PM
 
Location: Living on the Coast in Oxnard CA
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I helped most of my family leave California. Now I get the state all to myself. LOL Oh and the 38 million others that live here with me.
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Old 11-26-2010, 01:32 PM
 
Location: North Western NJ
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im going through issues with my family in my plans to move a few states south in the next couple of years...

they keep comming up with reasons why i "cant" go...
weve gone through simple 'its too far" to 'i wont be close enough to help you" and now were entering the "but this state has this wrong with it so you cant move there" phase...

(for example tennessee is nothing but backwood natives and exploding stills, northcarolina is all hurricanes and ice storms on the coats and those same backwoods folks the rest of the places...PA is only for amish people ect...all things they "heard" from "friends of friends" and people they work with...*rolls eyes*)

it was getting very annyoying, i need my own life and i cant afford to stay in connecticut unless i live at home for the rest of my life, i simply cant make enough to move here while doing what i love and i dont like connecticut enough to do something i hate just so i can make more money...

but then i thought about it and realized why they were doing it...they are concerned and will miss you...its emotion pure and simple, they are worried they will never see you, worried if something happnes they wont be close enough to help you out, what happens if you cant find a job or the one you have lined up doesnt work out, ect...

i think behaviour like your brothers is childish and silly...
BUT, mabe he feels like your abandoning him?

i think first id sit down and talk to them, see what their problem is with you moving and try and put their minds at ease. which once ive gotten a little more of an ide of where im heading is my next step...
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Old 11-26-2010, 02:52 PM
 
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of themselves and what they will lose, not what you will gain by moving. They should be happy for you if you are looking forward to moving; not putting you on a guilt trip.

The bottom line is, go. Move and be happy and let them just get over it.
+1 WTF is wrong with these people? They try to make it look like the OP is selfish for following his dreams but they're the ones who are selfish for trying to control him and make him feel guilty.
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Old 11-26-2010, 03:51 PM
 
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Wow, your family is pouting. You're not missing out on much by moving away. Believe me, I distanced myself from my family and while you can't choose family, you can choose your friends.

My dad used to tell me this and I'm putting his advice to good use by not seeing him.
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