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I am wondering if it has turned you into someone who is much more emotional than you were before their passing. Guess it doesn't have to be a sibling, just someone prematurely.
Lost a sister almost 12 years ago, she was 39, and wondering if it's me or it has happened to others. I tear up really easily, whether it be at something sad or happy. Guessing it is from her passing. There is a tv show that I watch on Wednesdays, and 75% of the time it will bring a tear to my eye. Most guys don't cry at a tv show. Weddings will also do it.
I'm not ashamed of it at all, not saying that. Kind of glad that the emotion shows.
I lost my Mom when I was 11, she was 42.
43 years later, I still get sad sometimes and think about how much better my life would have/could have been. I do get emotional about things easily, and often times any type of sadness will morph into thinking about my Mom.
I also think I over compensate sometimes with my own kids, doing things for them because I didn't have that luxury when I was their age.
About 5 years ago, our friends and their 2 children were murdered in their home and I have definitely changed...my emotions are heightened... fears I never had have surfaced... I am much more overprotective of my children than I was... and I get very melancholy when the holidays come around... when my children hit milestones and I know their children will never be able to...the list is endless, but, to answer your question, yes, I am definitely more emotional.
My youngest brother died in a car accident at 15. I was 22 at the time. For me the hardest time was right after. It's so hard to believe they are really gone. So many times I would catch myself thinking he was still here...
Time tends to make it more believable but you always miss them. You miss the experiences you could have been sharing with them. You miss them on their birthday, Christmas, holidays, and the day they died.
I think the best way to deal with the loss of a loved one is to cherish the time you had with them, and the fact you were able to love them even if it was for a short time.
About 5 years ago, our friends and their 2 children were murdered in their home and I have definitely changed...my emotions are heightened... fears I never had have surfaced... I am much more overprotective of my children than I was... and I get very melancholy when the holidays come around... when my children hit milestones and I know their children will never be able to...the list is endless, but, to answer your question, yes, I am definitely more emotional.
Yes, it was is very sad and it is probably safe for me to say it changed anyone who came in contact with them.
I bet. I know that every Christmas when I return home and have to drive the icy streets, I'm different. I can't imagine dealing with murder. You not only have to deal with loss but anger that it was a choice that took your friends rather than an accident.
My parents were shot execution style by someone who ran up on them with a shotgun, fired 2 shots in the head and chest of my mom and dad; they laid dead in the street like wounded dogs. They were well respected in my old neighborhood for being a father and mother figure to some of the at-risk youth. Today would've been their 55th anniversary so I went down to the graveyard for an hour and saluted them. It hurts a little but the consolation prize for me was knowing that the killer met the same fate a day later. He was already marked for death anyway in my 'hood. This all happened when I was no older than 7.
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