grandmother was trying to make me feel guilty last night
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It's not that easy. If I suddenly decrease the # of visits then I look like an ***hole. She'll whine to others relatives I never come around and then I have to deal with their snide remarks.
What do you care anyway...? No matter what you do or don't do, somebody will whine all your life.
My grandmother was trying to make me feel guilty last night for "not visiting enough". I reminded her that I saw her a couple weeks earlier and she said it's not enough. I do my best but have a demanding job with long hours, other people to see (who I see less often), things to do, etc. Am I being unreasonable? Seems like I see my grandmother a lot more than others my age do. My brother doesn't get the same guilt trip and he rarely visits except major holidays.
once every couple of weeks isn't enough, especially for your gramma who must love you very much, or she wouldn't be laying that trip on you...It's never unreasonable to take care of your business,....but can't you just make your grandma your business as well????
once every couple of weeks isn't enough, especially for your gramma who must love you very much, or she wouldn't be laying that trip on you...It's never unreasonable to take care of your business,....but can't you just make your grandma your business as well????
I have explained this but still get the guilt trips. I guess I need to do a better job of disregarding these remarks. No matter how much anyone visits, it will probably not be enough. It doesn't bother me to be alone but she grew up with a lot of brothers and sisters and I guess needs to be surrounded by people all the time. Her other complaint seems to be that I'm single and not married with kids. Seems like every time I see her, there is some kind of remark about "settling down" and/or "finding someone". She's even tried to set me up a couple times. I wish she'd relax and enjoy my cousin's baby who will be born soon.
Maybe you could look at the bright side and understand that your Grandmother enjoys seeing you and wished the two of you had more time together. If she didn't care she wouldn't comment about you being single.
Simply stated, your Grandmother is ....being a Grandmother. Lighten up and be grateful yours is still alive as many of us are not so fortunate.
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