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I love my parents. I think my wife and kids would be #1 though when i have them, but it wouldn't make me love em less. Heck, I love everyone on this earth!
Very good relationship though it wasn't always so. It seems the older we all get the closer we all become. Of course it also means the closer I get to losing them.
My relationship with them is okay. I love them but they were not great parents when I was growing up. I spent almost every weekend with my grandmother and finally moved in with her when I was 14. My parents moved 30 miles away to a house with no phone (pre cell phone days). I only saw them a few times a year after that. When I turned 16 and could drive, I saw them a little more. Don't get me wrong, they paid the bills and I am grateful. But I don't feel very close to them.
After I married the first time and had children we became a little closer. After my divorce, I moved back to my home town with my kids and my parents were wonderful grandparents. I am very happy for my children's sake. Three years ago we moved several states away and now everytime I see that my mother is calling I cringe. All I ever hear is how I took her grandchildren away from her and how lonely she is. (although she won't come see them.) I can't take the guilt and frankly...they weren't there for me when I needed them and I just don't feel like I "owe" them anything.
Very good relationship though it wasn't always so. It seems the older we all get the closer we all become. Of course it also means the closer I get to losing them.
They were not great parents. As a matter of fact, they did countless things wrong (nothing too serious, though, just a lot of small things done wrong, particularly when they were walking the long and winding road to divorce, and dragging me along -typical-)! There were times when it was me that was parenting them. I was a very responsible, mature, independent and resourceful child so maybe I should thank them for that stage of my development lol.
There's only one person I love as much as I love my mother, and that's my partner. My father, I love him a lot, but since he was virtually absent from my life during some key years I don't really feel like he's my father anyway: he's more like a good friend.
I've never hated or despised them for the things they did wrong. They're good people and I appreciate their positive contributions. A house always full of books and movies and good music, where intellectual stimuli were the norm. The way they always tried not to patronise me and were always interested in what I had to say. How we played together and were always doing exciting new things (before things began to go wrong, anyway!). Their own endless curiosity and understanding of other people. How they (my mother, at least) became my parents again when I needed it between my late teens and my early adulthood.
So, my vote would be "Very good, they are the most important people in my life -again, particularly my mother-, although they were not great parents".
I don't like your options. I love my parents like a child normally would, I think. But I can't say that they are the most important people in my life. My son is that...as I think most people's children are. But I have a lot of family, and love them all.
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I think my wife and kids would be #1 though when i have them, but it wouldn't make me love em less. Heck, I love everyone on this earth!
