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Okay, you have convinced me to look into it. I had it on my list of places to look into but I guess I always had the "stereotype" about it that it was more of a cliquey, sorority type atmosphere. Is that not the case?
I am interested too, but I don't like sororities either.
I live in Boca Raton, FL which people have a certain perception about. Not always true either. There are some really nice down to earth people here.
When I got involved in the League, my daughter was 8 and my son was 3. I also worked more than full time. I also volunteered in their schools and at church. Volunteering keeps me balanced - when I feel down and then I volunteer, the focus is not on me!
Fast forward 10 years - my daughter goes to college in a southern state. All the girls she meets are from the south and their moms are in the Junior League in their respective cities. I guess one day they were talking about the "white glove" aspect and my daughter was like "the League my mom is in is not anything like that" - made me feel good b/c those are things our League has really worked on.
I did not have a traditional college experience so I did not belong to a sorority. I always felt I missed out. I may have shied away from the League b/c of my own perception and like I've said, I've met some amazing, amazing women.
One of my favorite assignments (after the first year) was to oversee the New Member class. Each year, the new women were even more amazing than the earlier groups! I found the girls to be awesome, willing to learn, and open to the opportunities. We all got our hands dirty!
This is the right time of year to contact the League in your area. I'm sure you will be welcomed with open arms!
We have moved to a new area and I also have struggled to make friends. As I can tell:
1. I am pretty picky and critical - so that narrows the field;
2. I have kids - so my time is limited;
3. I am in an area where people NEVER leave so they have all their family and friends here:
4. And we have a BRUTAL winter season
So -
1. I do plan weeks in advance to see the few people that I have made friends with - sometimes 6-8 weeks - but at least we have plans;
2. The friends I have made I try to nuture those friendships;
3. I make dates at times that are not popular for family and friends - breakfast or lunch on a Saturday usually works better than a happy hour or dinner;
4. I have begun to focus on me - health, reading etc.
Good luck - its lonely being somewhere new. I know - - -
I am interested too, but I don't like sororities either.
If you're in Northern Virginia, there is a League there. The women come from all walks of life, trust me. Of course, you have your stereotype but that has really changed!
DM if you want - actually here's website for my city:
Join a regular fishing club in your area, or an online fishing forum. You will make friends. Fishin' folks always want to get together & fish new or old waters. Learn new techniques, baits, lures, etc. Folks have open seats in their boats.
I live in Boca Raton, FL which people have a certain perception about. Not always true either. There are some really nice down to earth people here.
When I got involved in the League, my daughter was 8 and my son was 3. I also worked more than full time. I also volunteered in their schools and at church. Volunteering keeps me balanced - when I feel down and then I volunteer, the focus is not on me!
Fast forward 10 years - my daughter goes to college in a southern state. All the girls she meets are from the south and their moms are in the Junior League in their respective cities. I guess one day they were talking about the "white glove" aspect and my daughter was like "the League my mom is in is not anything like that" - made me feel good b/c those are things our League has really worked on.
I did not have a traditional college experience so I did not belong to a sorority. I always felt I missed out. I may have shied away from the League b/c of my own perception and like I've said, I've met some amazing, amazing women.
One of my favorite assignments (after the first year) was to oversee the New Member class. Each year, the new women were even more amazing than the earlier groups! I found the girls to be awesome, willing to learn, and open to the opportunities. We all got our hands dirty!
This is the right time of year to contact the League in your area. I'm sure you will be welcomed with open arms!
Is the league more geared towards women in their 30s and up? Would it be weird for a 22 year old to try to join?
I find it to be an age thing, here. I'm in my early 30s, as well, and have been living for 3 years or so with my SO in a city and state where we are both transplants. I work with a lot of people who are younger than I am (early to late twenties), and while they go out a lot and socialize, the few of us who are 30+ do not. People socialize at work, but, at least here, once they reach their 30s, tend to become more of homebodies. It's been very hard to get people that I AM friendly with to so much as meet for a Saturday brunch. Sometimes I feel like once people get into their thirties, they tend to lean more toward less spontaneity.
Interesting perspective! I find that too, about the homebodies. It's frustrating, I know. What have you done to try to cope?
We all need friends. I think women especially in your age group are just maxxed out. Between work, kids, home, other family, and a husband....it's a banner evening when they have time to trim their toenails. People need to give friendships a higher priority, at least some of the time. It sounds like you are doing everything right but the people you want to associate with are all too darn busy.
In time, you will find someone who has chosen to simplify her life or just let other things go now and then so she can have and be, a friend. Just don't give up.
I'm female and aside from work friends, I have no female friends, nor do I really want any. I have two very close friends, both of them men. I have several other fairly close friends, also men.
Most females bore the hell out of me and always have. To me, men are FAR more interesting, non-judgmental, funny and have fewer hang ups than women. Less competitive and petty too. Just my opinion, I realize most women want to hang with other women.
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I had it on my list of places to look into but I guess I always had the "stereotype" about it that it was more of a cliquey, sorority type atmosphere. Is that not the case?
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