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If Juan isn't someone that you would consider a friend, then he sounds like a druggie and, IMHO, he will rob your home at some time in the future if he thinks you keep money in your house.
OMG hereinfla - that's exactly what I was thinking as I first read the post !
OP, Juan came to you door TWICE in ONE day asking for $5 each time?
Crackhead ! (or "Methhead!", depending on your state )
Fact: Most home burglaries are done by 1) neighborhood juvenilles or 2) neighborhood drug addicts. These "neighbors" know your habits of coming and going and have some idea or expectation of what they may find in your home.
You need to have a sit-down with hubby. You need to protect each other and your home and this situation just doesn't sound right.
Not trying to be alarmist, but you obviously aren't comfortable with it yourself.
Last edited by riveree; 07-25-2007 at 10:57 PM..
Reason: misspelled "comfortable".....oops!
Well, last year he loaned 1000.00 to a loser who was having his wages garnished (who knows why-probably child support)
......could be from a lawsuit too. People who don't pay their bills get sued. And when they don't pay up after they lose the case, they eventually get their wages garnished.
Sunny - OUCH. $1000 no friggin' way. I control the finances so that's at least in our favor. Plus, DH isn't THAT generous. He just "throws around" little bills, like $5!
Sorry y'all - good ol' Juan is just a helpless old man. I am almost positive there is nothing more sinister going on than just needing a few bucks to get by. The two incidences happened in the span of like 5 months, not twice in one day. I also apologize for the psuedo-name. He is not an illegal. At leaset I don't think he is.
He's actually pretty nice: brings our garbage can from the curb, pulls weeds in our front yard (we've got rocks not lawn), waters a few bushes here and there. I don't ask him to do this. He just does it himself (he's retired I think) so if he's expecting *something* in return (like borrowing $5) what am I supposed to do? He's being a "good neighbor" and I'm being a selfish miser! I just hope he doesn't think that by doing that stuff he thinks he can get away with borrowing money. No one asked him to do those things to my front yard and I'm too cheap to be swayed.
well- that's good to hear. I am sure your h. uses his better judgement as well. Some people (like my stbx) think they can make friends by loaning money-lol.
It's a big mistake to keep loaning this guy money. He'll keep coming back. And if your husband keeps giving it to him when you eventually cut him off he is going to get very upset and take it personally.
You know Foma, I was thinking... Do you guys have a lawn? or are you in a condo? If you have a lawn and mow it yourselves, maybe next time he asks for money, tell him that he can mow the grass every couple of weeks for $X and everyone gets something for their money. You get your yard taken care of and he gets some cash. I don't know the particulars of your situation but it's a thought
My daughter and I used to think we were helping a friend in Tempe, who was very capable of working but found reasons not to. She always seemed to need money for meds or food. WE would drive all the way out there to take her shopping and make sure her house was stocked for a few days. Then it turned into the need for money. Bus fare, new shoes for a supposed 'job interview', etc etc. After about a year of helping our friend and still no sign or interest in finding a job, we realized that we had spent more on driving all the way to Tempe a couple of times a month, then giving her some money, then buying her food, and it appeared the only time she would call wopuld be when she needed something. After my daughter and I put the brakes on the money tree, funny, she stopped calling, emailing, altogether keeping in touch. Last I heard from a friend of ours was that shes been in jail now for over a year for getting caught driving an uninsured car with a suspended license....and failing to appear in court on a former drug-related charge! When I told my daughter what I had learned, she wasnt surprised.
Though shes not a neighbour, its just an experience we learned from. Our neighbours here are pretty good, we keep an eye on things for them, and vice versa...
He's actually pretty nice: brings our garbage can from the curb, pulls weeds in our front yard (we've got rocks not lawn), waters a few bushes here and there. I don't ask him to do this. He just does it himself (he's retired I think) so if he's expecting *something* in return (like borrowing $5) what am I supposed to do? He's being a "good neighbor" and I'm being a selfish miser! I just hope he doesn't think that by doing that stuff he thinks he can get away with borrowing money. No one asked him to do those things to my front yard and I'm too cheap to be swayed.
He is paying back the $5 each time he borrows, right? So long as it's just $5 or similar chump change, and so long as he's good about paying it back... what the heck? I'm kind of with your husband on this one. He does you some favors... what's the big deal about fronting him a few bucks from time to time? It doesn't sound like he's looking to stiff you or set you up for anything. Maybe the incidental chores he does are his way of showing he wants to be a good neighbor, too. Fire up that Juan jar and enjoy your new friend. It could be worse: you could have someone like me for a neighbor.
Sunny - OUCH. $1000 no friggin' way. I control the finances so that's at least in our favor. Plus, DH isn't THAT generous. He just "throws around" little bills, like $5!
Sorry y'all - good ol' Juan is just a helpless old man. I am almost positive there is nothing more sinister going on than just needing a few bucks to get by. The two incidences happened in the span of like 5 months, not twice in one day. I also apologize for the psuedo-name. He is not an illegal. At leaset I don't think he is.
He's actually pretty nice: brings our garbage can from the curb, pulls weeds in our front yard (we've got rocks not lawn), waters a few bushes here and there. I don't ask him to do this. He just does it himself (he's retired I think) so if he's expecting *something* in return (like borrowing $5) what am I supposed to do? He's being a "good neighbor" and I'm being a selfish miser! I just hope he doesn't think that by doing that stuff he thinks he can get away with borrowing money. No one asked him to do those things to my front yard and I'm too cheap to be swayed.
Well thats differant then, I wouldn't have a problem giving him a few bucks here and there.
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