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Old 04-19-2011, 10:34 AM
 
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I don't mean to stereotype, but I'll be hanging out at this social hobby gaming store for the next 2 nights as a beginner to the types of board games they play there like Dungeons & Dragons, Magic, Minecraft, etc. I'm kind of back at square one with no friends after the year and a half vocational course I took, but I learned from my mistakes about what I should and shouldn't do socially.

If I get along with the guys that hang out there and we become friends and get to hang out with each other somewhere else, do you think they have other interests besides games, like sports, movies, partying, etc.? I don't want to suddenly convert into living a "nerd" lifestyle and be hanging out with these people who only like gaming.

Again, I don't mean to stereotype and describe what is real from what I've seen on TV and in movies about what nerds are really like. But I hope you guys know what I mean.
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Old 04-19-2011, 10:39 AM
 
Location: Wu Dang Mountain
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My oldest son went through a gaming phase when he was in his mid-teens - back then it was Warcraft and D&D - and he went at it hot and heavy for a while, but it never affected his ability to party and just hang-out. The plus side was that he enlarged his circle of friends (and I got to help him paint those neat little pewter figures ).
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Old 04-19-2011, 10:51 AM
 
Location: Viña del Mar, Chile
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haha do whatever you enjoy doing, i was friends with everyone back in high school. i never gave a crap about what other people said, if i enjoyed it, i did it and admitted it to anyone. I knew more about video games and anime than the geeks of the school and more about death metal than the goths of the school, but did it affect my popularity in any way? nope.

its all about confidence, do what you enjoy, you only get one life so be happy. if you like the people you hang out with, hang out with em. if they bore you, find new friends. no use wasting time with people you dont like
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Old 04-19-2011, 11:10 AM
 
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I play video games and, although I'm not heavily into them anymore, I was a pretty serious gamer a few years ago. A lot of people said it seemed out of character for someone like me (whatever that means).

One thing I love doing is reading. I can spend all afternoon at Barnes & Noble just reading. This might be considered nerdy.
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Old 04-19-2011, 11:14 AM
 
Location: US
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You can have a variety of friends. I have my married friends, my party friends, clean cut friends, my gay friends, different race friends deep in own culture, old friends, young friends...

What I am trying to say is all types have something fun to bring to the table. Why pick just one group?

Of the nerdy gamers I knew they did do a lot of other things besides that.
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Old 04-19-2011, 11:22 AM
 
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I don't want to suddenly convert into living a "nerd" lifestyle and be hanging out with these people who only like gaming.
If you don't want to do this, then don't but be careful how you communicate your desire to change the scenery every once in a while.
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Old 04-19-2011, 11:44 AM
 
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OP, you should keep an open mind and try out new things -- that said, I do have some (limited) experience with the types who hang out in game shops. A few years ago, I had a boss who was into a superhero dice game, and he encouraged a bunch of us to go to this comic book shop where it was played once a week. I went. It's usually a good idea to be into what the boss is into ... wow. Different life, different people. No, I didn't get the sense that they had a life outside of the comic book shop.

Try it out though. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
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Old 04-19-2011, 11:45 AM
 
Location: Back in the gym...Yo Adrian!
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There's nothing wrong with having different sets of friends. When I was younger I had my geek friends, jock friends, artistic friends, hoodlum friends, etc. I hung out with all kinds of people. I don't get out as much today, but I never turn down the prospect of having a new friend because of any perceived cultural or social differences.

Hang out with the gamers and enjoy their company. They may or may not want to join you for a football game or a hike outdoors, but you don't have to spend all your time with one bucket of friends. Spread the wealth.
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Old 04-19-2011, 11:59 AM
 
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No, I didn't get the sense that they had a life outside of the comic book shop.
Really? Why is that? Did you ask them what else they did? Or do you mean you didn't get the sense that they didn't have a life outside of the comic book shop?
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Old 04-19-2011, 07:31 PM
 
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You don't have any friends now, so why do you care what others think if you hang out there. If you like playing the games, then don't worry about it, and make some new friends please.
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