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Old 05-24-2011, 03:11 PM
 
Location: Oklahoma
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A while back I was reading Dear Annie and I came across a story where this woman had wrote in to Annie and told her story about the time she had to cut the ties from her family to save her marriage. She didn't really say much about what they had done and I really can't remember much, but I found it interesting to talk about. This woman didn't just cut off her parents she cut off her entire family! Mom, dad, aunts, uncles, cousin, siblings... you get the picture. She wouldn't even allow her children to talk to them.

So how far would you go to save your marriage?
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Old 05-24-2011, 03:21 PM
 
Location: San Antonio, TX
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I wouldn't do that unless there were some seriously good reasons.

My husband would love to never have to deal with my family again...but they didn't put on a nice act before we married or anything like that, so he knew what they were all like. Nobody has mellowed or improved with time, him or my relatives, they've just learned to accept each other to some extent.
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Old 05-24-2011, 03:23 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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A while back I was reading Dear Annie and I came across a story where this woman had wrote in to Annie and told her story about the time she had to cut the ties from her family to save her marriage. She didn't really say much about what they had done and I really can't remember much, but I found it interesting to talk about. This woman didn't just cut off her parents she cut off her entire family! Mom, dad, aunts, uncles, cousin, siblings... you get the picture. She wouldn't even allow her children to talk to them.

So how far would you go to save your marriage?

It would depend...who is the emotionally and mentally unhealthy party - the family or the spouse?

Unless a family is all nutso and poisonous vipers, you'd be wrong to just cut them all off.
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Old 05-24-2011, 03:46 PM
 
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Depends on your family and how dysfunctional they are and how good your marriage is.
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Old 05-24-2011, 03:52 PM
 
Location: USA
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It happens all the time and with some good and some bad reason. I usually get the thumbs up from gilrfriends families, especially when compared to thier last boyfriends. Sometimes I find myself liking their families better than them, usually just the sisters or cousins though! JK
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Old 05-24-2011, 04:35 PM
 
Location: Oklahoma
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I forgot to mention that she said her family was always trying to destroy her marriage by starting drama.

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Old 05-24-2011, 04:52 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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Well for heavens sake, I hope that she can find her own way and leave her family out of her decisions. Run far away from the family!! Start all over!
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Old 05-24-2011, 05:15 PM
 
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Well, if according to your follow-up, they were always trying to destroy her marriage and start drama, then maybe the only sensible thing to do was to cut them out of her life. That's always a hard thing to do, and I don't think anyone ever wants to cut ties with their parents, siblings, heck, everyone. But if they are so toxic and harmful that they are ruining her life, it may have been the best of the bad options. What else was she to do, keep them in her life and allow them the satisfaction of destroying anything good she ever made for herself?
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Old 05-24-2011, 05:16 PM
 
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I forgot to in she said her family was always trying to destroy her marriage by starting drama.
Yeah, they need to be kick to the curb then.
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Old 05-24-2011, 05:48 PM
 
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If you include aunts, uncles, cousins, brothers and sisters, then that's a whole lot of people who just happen to not get along with one person. Chances are that the common denominator is the spouse. I could see if it were a couple bad apples, but not the entire extended family. Usually there is more than one type of personality amongst a dozen people, that they all can't be drama queens.
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