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So I know a guy that had a thing for a girl, even though she had a boyfriend.
They used to be facebook friends, but I noticed they're not anymore. This can only mean 1 thing...
It probably got to be too much that he had a thing for her but he couldn't have her. I knew all along that he had a thing for her, but maybe he recently admitted his feelings to her.
Why does it need to be this way? When a guy is interested in a girl but she's not interested, why does the friendship need to end over that? Why can't people stay friends? I say this from my own experience, and from what I've seen happen to other people (such as the example of this post).
I couldn't think of where else to post this. It kinda goes along with relationships. But since I mentioned facebook, I posted on the facebook thread. If this post would be more appropriate for the relationships forum, here's the relationships thread that I think is the most relevant: //www.city-data.com/forum/relat...meone-can.html
I had been on Facebook for years, found an old friend years ago and signed up, more friends and family followed but as time rolled by the good friends dropped off and only the losers remained. I felt obligated to keep my page going for the last two years but deleting Farm what ever requests and getting sent pics from people I hardly knew that are divorced, only have cats as friends and are starved for attention with no lives has kept me from even signing on more than a hand full of times. The last straw came a few nights back after fathers day and I signed on to find Pictures of Some womens teen aged daughters in their underware. The women was a friend a long long time ago but apparently has sunk to new lows.
I'm trying not to be too judgemental but is this an isolated case or is it the same thing that happened to chat rooms? When Computers cost $3000 it was great, info came from universities, we joked and had discussions in chatrooms, a DC265 digital camera cost around $1000 and the Walmart crowd didn't walk our streets. Other than for shopping and emails the computer is becoming more like a CB radio than it once was.
This is why I only have people I know on my friends list. That eliminates the problems of which you speak.
I do enjoy it overall, though. Some of my friends are talented amateur photographers and I love seeing their work. Also, I belong to a private group for political rantery. There are only about 50 people, and it's invitation only, and I get a lot out of it--more than I would with chat rooms, message boards, or even blogs, where trolls abound and people are only interested in shouting each other down or trying to make one another look stupid.
This is why I only have people I know on my friends list. That eliminates the problems of which you speak.
I do enjoy it overall, though. Some of my friends are talented amateur photographers and I love seeing their work. Also, I belong to a private group for political rantery. There are only about 50 people, and it's invitation only, and I get a lot out of it--more than I would with chat rooms, message boards, or even blogs, where trolls abound and people are only interested in shouting each other down or trying to make one another look stupid.
I guess I don't change easily, I like free speech or the illusion there of, allowing people to perpetuate to the point where I get disgusted with the results. I guess I flounder in the pool of Hippy culture that once envisioned utopia where only a name plate of victims remain.
I deleted FB quite a while ago b/c i could care less that "Jane doesn't feel good and is taking a nap", or little "billy hit a homerun".....I DON"T GIVE A %$^&!!!!!! Doesn't help that i was deployed when my wife asked for a divorce and i saw stuff on her page i really didn't want to see. I hope FB falls on its face very soon. I HATE ITTTTTT. Yes i get worked up over it.
I really enjoy Facebook and some of the friends of friends I've gotten to know even though we haven't met in person. I've gotten back in touch with dozens of old friends I hadn't seen in years and we get into all sorts of conversations, some serious, and others just joking around. But if you're not into it I guess you should just delete your account but before you do could you send me the photos of the teenage girls in their underware?
I really enjoy Facebook and some of the friends of friends I've gotten to know even though we haven't met in person. I've gotten back in touch with dozens of old friends I hadn't seen in years and we get into all sorts of conversations, some serious, and others just joking around. But if you're not into it I guess you should just delete your account but before you do could you send me the photos of the teenage girls in their underware?
lol, yeah I'll just think of you as the Uncle I never had that can't come within two hundred feet of a school.
I deleted FB quite a while ago b/c i could care less that "Jane doesn't feel good and is taking a nap", or little "billy hit a homerun".....I DON"T GIVE A %$^&!!!!!! Doesn't help that i was deployed when my wife asked for a divorce and i saw stuff on her page i really didn't want to see. I hope FB falls on its face very soon. I HATE ITTTTTT. Yes i get worked up over it.
Bummer
I haven't found FB especially useful; it's even been a bit of a downer.
Relatives nagged me until I signed up. My attitude was "watsamatta with just e-mail?" but caved. Within a couple of days I was flooded with friend requests from former high school classmates. Them - I ignored. I ran with a different crowd than most of them back then, my life hasn't followed the same path in the decades since, there were very few who I could match name and face.
The one person I was glad to find - someone who might be called my BFF in high school - was such a disappointed I was nearly traumatized. She went from an extremely intelligent, vibrant, personable individual to a morose, bitter, middle-age woman. Her initial messages to catch up described dropping out of college to marry a loser and have a kid; staying in the same podunk southern town we had both vowed to flee after graduation; divorce, remarriage, two more kids, another (acrimonious) divorce; then remarrying her first husband and his death a few years later. I didn't feel comfortable describing my modest success and long-term, happy relationship. Her later messages describing health issues and resentment in getting older I tried to respond to in an amusing, Erma Bombeck vein, describing my own views of middle age and the aches and ague of being over the hill. This just lead her to ramp up her own descriptions of misery, as if to try and trump what I said.
Judging from all her -ville game requests, it seemed that she spent all her spare time on FB games with little social life (one of her early messages declared that she had given up on men and would "never go through that mess again"). She also turned into a religious fundie, a real turnaround from the cheerful atheism we had both professed in school. When I remarked that I had mellowed into a humanist approach, she used the subject to profess that it was only her "faith in G*d" that got her through all her travails.
I finally just let the communication peter out, as did she. I think we both realized that we no longer had anything in common. My most recent, and last message, was to squawk at one of her comments "press LIKE if you are against the recent decision in NY to legalize gay marriage." I messaged her with a reminiscence of how we both befriended a guy in high school who showed strong gay tendencies and was constantly slammed and bullied by everyone else as being a "f.ag". Her reply "well, if David chooses that kind of life there's nothing I can do about it. I can love the sinner but castigate the sin. He could have a different kind of life if he wanted it" made me think "OK, that's it. She gets a big UNfriend from me". I simply could not connect the sunny, optimistic-about-her-future, tolerant person I knew as a teen with this unkind, intolerant person I re-found in middle age. And I didn't want to know this person.
I'd delete my FB account if it wasn't for the relatives who'd squawk that I'm being rude for not wanting to know the minutia of their lives (even though I never post anything about my life or Spouse's.) It is something I kinda wished I'd never taken up.
Last edited by silverwing; 06-26-2011 at 02:10 PM..
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Deleting my Facebook Account
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