A Gentle Reminder ... (boyfriend, husband, quotes, person)
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I don't see too many of the posters here in this description, but sometimes it sorta' veers in that direction. So it's a good (and entertaining, IMO) reminder ...
Well, I just read the 1-20 but not the paragraphs underneath each one.
While I truly agree with most of these things, and unless someone asks me my input, I don't get in their business.
A big problem with things like that is Face Book. You can find numbers 1-20 blasted all over peoples fb pages on any given day beckoning you to be in their business....
I stay out of it then too.
OP has someone been getting all up in your business these days?
Well, I just read the 1-20 but not the paragraphs underneath each one.
While I truly agree with most of these things, and unless someone asks me my input, I don't get in their business.
A big problem with things like that is Face Book. You can find numbers 1-20 blasted all over peoples fb pages on any given day beckoning you to be in their business....
I stay out of it then too.
OP has someone been getting all up in your business these days?
Not mine, because I'm pretty good at setting and enforcing limits. I found it amusing, though. I do know some people who could use some quotes out of this because they have busybodies harrassing them, so I figured maybe other people here might find it helpful, or at least amusing.
Well, I'm looking at it from a different angle. When someone posts anything having to do with anything on a public forum, no matter how big or small, innocuous or heavily personal. . . you are making it everybody's business.
2) GET YOUR NOSE OUT OF OTHER PEOPLE’S WALLETS.
I know it is really hard to not care how much other people make. We all like to compare our own income to everyone else’s for some reason, and it isn’t healthy. Nobody’s worth is tied to money, even though we all think it is, so let’s stop trying to assign value to it.
When it might be your business: Feel free to care (very much) if your six year old walks in with a fat wad of big bills. You also have my permission to stuff singles down my undies and ask me how much I’ve made off you so far.
How about when your friend keeps asking to "borrow" money and never pays you back? Actually, I still don't care how much money they make, I care about how/where they are spending it. Maybe if they hadn't bought that tablet AND Kindle, they probably could have paid me back the £80 they owe me. Or how about the time I lent them £20 because I thought it was for something important, like food or rent or utilities. Instead, I come to find out it was for some PAYG phone credit. Um, no, I'm sorry but you can live without these things. You don't need a tablet, you don't need a Kindle, you don't even need a cell phone!
And yes, I know I also don't need to lend them the money and believe me, I'm not anymore. And hey, if they want to spend THEIR money on something they can't afford, I agree that's their business (this is number 8 on the list), not mine. But when it's MY money, and especially when they haven't paid me back, I think it IS my business.
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7) GET YOUR NOSE OUT OF OTHER PEOPLE’S SICKNESSES.
Every time I mention that I have a headache, or that I see stars, or that my butt hurts, or that I’m sweating acid, everyone knows exactly what’s wrong with me, and exactly what I need to do to fix it. I know the internet has made everyone experts, but we’re not. Half the time my doctor doesn’t even know and he went to school for twelve years and studied nothing but how to fix my ailments.
When it might be your business: The day you walk in for a job interview at a doctor’s office, and they ask you what your credentials are, and you say, “I know my way around WebMD,” and they say, “welcome aboard doctor!” That’s the day I want your diagnoses and witch cures.
Ehhh, I think people are just trying to be helpful. It might be annoying but they mean well. Besides, when you know someone who is constantly complaining about this or that ailment, it gets really tiring. If you don't want people making suggestions that might shut you up, don't talk about your ailments to begin with.
And that's kind of the crux of the matter regarding some of these points. Like staying out of people's relationships and marriage - for the most part, I agree... but when someone is constantly blabbing about their relationship, it's difficult to stay out of it. If you don't want people in your business, stop talking about your business all the time! Don't tell me about how you're doing something I find unethical - like cheating on your husband - and then expect me to be supportive about it. How am I supposed to respond to that? With a blank stare?
If I constantly moan about how fat I am, how can I get indignant when someone suggests I stop eating pies and pizza? If I'm constantly complaining about how my boyfriend doesn't treat me right, how can I get indignant when someone dares to tell me to just dump him already? If I'm constantly complaining about how easily my bones break when I'm only in my 20s, how can I get indignant when someone suggests I consume more calcium? It's REALLY annoying when someone complains about something when you KNOW there IS a solution to it but they are too lazy or scared or whatever to just do it.
If you don't want people in your business, don't involve them by talking about your business to them.
Well, I'm looking at it from a different angle. When someone posts anything having to do with anything on a public forum, no matter how big or small, innocuous or heavily personal. . . you are making it everybody's business.
Yep. I make it a point to avoid judgments about friends, family, and colleagues. In fact, I really detest it when people such as my in-laws hold forth and critique people who think differently.
However, I don't think the blog in question really applies to this forum. After all, given the fact that it's a discussion forum as opposed to a validation forum, it's fair game. I've never understood the concept of airing one's problems or issues online to a bunch of strangers and then getting mad when they tell you things you don't want to hear.
Last edited by cpg35223; 02-22-2013 at 07:41 AM..
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