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Anyway, Lital If I were you I'd do as Thursday said.. I wouldnt' get a new phone but I'd only answer when convenient or cut them off if the call is not important and during work.
Have you tried letting your mum know how inconvenient it is to just have your plans changed on her whim?
OP, I learned how to give myself respect, then I was able to give other people respect which included how I communicated my needs and feelings to them, and then I was able to respect their own needs and feelings. This meant that I had to stop trying to please and prove my worthiness. This meant that I had to learn how communicate in a way that was not needy or accusatory. The end result, I learned how to let things go and start living my life.
I have been mistreated, disrespected, and lied on. My mother taught my siblings, and other family members to hate me. I just realized they will never love me or treat me like a sister. I have made peace with it, and have moved on.
I have also learned when you grow up in a house full of siblings that don't like you . It's very hard to trust people on the outside. I have been stabbed in the back and used by family , I don't know how to trust anyone.!
I sometimes get very angry
with my mother. My mother treated me as if I was her enemy. I never knew what my mother felt like because I was not allowed to touch her. The day she passed on was the only day I got to hold her in my arms until she turned cold, and hard. That was the day I forgave her.
My siblings still treat me the way my mother treated me and have passed that dislike on to their children.
[quote=Brian;19712428]Hmm... I just did quick look at your posting history... I suspect that you know why your family do not respect/take you seriously.
I guess if you really want your family to change that, you would need to prove that you deserve to be respected/taken seriously.
I am sorry to say this, but this is the way I see it.[/QUOTE
Now since when does a family member have to “prove he/she is worthy of respect from another family member? NO! Please disregard this guy. Because you never have to allow yourself to be extorted for Love & respect from your family. If they do not give this freely and without strings, then let them go! You don’t need them!
Then you need to change the script because you keep falling into the same pattern,response etc. you are not going to change them, so change yourself. Stop setting yourself up for failure.
If you’re working don’t answer the phone, if you do answerthe phone don’t answer their question “are you home” just state you will call back as you’re busy at that moment. If they want you to do something learn the art of saying NO. Don’t offer excuses or justifications.
You don’t need to talk about it since you know they will blow it off, so just quietly get on with your life and they can get on with theirs.
Ummm folks? Check out the date of the original post.
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Don’t Ever Prove Yourself “worthy”.
