Ever have to turn down a friend? (girls, college, romance)
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Ever had a situation where a friend expressed interest and you have to turn them down? Did your relationship recover?
I briefly dated a friend when we were both in middle school. It lasted a few months. Shortly after we left high school he wrote a very beautiful letter and asked to try dating again for real.
I had to turn him down, primarily because our needs were very different. I'm not at all interested in romance and I need a great deal of 'me' time. He needed more interaction and well, I'm asexual and he isn't.
We're still friends, but not nearly as close as we used to be. Now I see him only occasionally for special events and he has a new 'best friend'.
Yeah, a asked me to go out with her and I declined and everything went on as usual. Looking back I probably should have gone just for fun, no reason to decline those kind of offers but I was younger and dumb. Not everything has to be a huge romantic ordeal and you can just go out and have a good time.
It makes me think of the movie "Yes Man", it's a cool idea and kind of a view to adopt in my eyes.
Yes. A lot. Sometimes we remained friends. Sometimes we didn't. Sometimes we remained friends and then they got mad at me later. Sometimes we remained friends and then their future SO's didn't want them to see me anymore. Sometimes things were perfectly fine and dandy afterward.
Ever had a situation where a friend expressed interest and you have to turn them down? Did your relationship recover?
I briefly dated a friend when we were both in middle school. It lasted a few months. Shortly after we left high school he wrote a very beautiful letter and asked to try dating again for real.
I had to turn him down, primarily because our needs were very different. I'm not at all interested in romance and I need a great deal of 'me' time. He needed more interaction and well, I'm asexual and he isn't.
We're still friends, but not nearly as close as we used to be. Now I see him only occasionally for special events and he has a new 'best friend'.
Anyone else?
^^I have had a similar situation as you. A guy I dated a few months in MS, then throughout HS became Besties...we grew in attraction for one another but neither one of us said anything about it for a couple years, we just continued to date other people and those "SO"s would usually feel a bit uncomfortable with our "friendship". We dated for about a year after HS, had BIG plans for forever..lol..didn't happen...we just strayed in different lifestyles, still a wonderful friend of mine, but there is a 'special love' between us...that has yet to be broken!! I love him to piecees and visa versa, we both just know we are NOT ment to go there again...ever!!
Years ago when I was in this production a woman that happened to be playing my mom on the stage wanted to go out with me. I was 22 at the time and she was in her early 30's. She saw the possibilities and I thought back then that I want to be with someone more my age. She had a couple kids that were 12 and 10 at the time. we were friends and all but I just couldn't see myself dating her. She was hot but so were two other girls that we were acting with.
Yeah, a asked me to go out with her and I declined and everything went on as usual. Looking back I probably should have gone just for fun, no reason to decline those kind of offers but I was younger and dumb. Not everything has to be a huge romantic ordeal and you can just go out and have a good time.
It makes me think of the movie "Yes Man", it's a cool idea and kind of a view to adopt in my eyes.
Never turned down a "friend", been handed the "friend" card a number of times by past girls/women, who I made the stupid move of trying to cultivate a friendship for the express purpose of trying to date them. Stopped making that mistake after high school.
Anyhow, I still have retained a few of them as friends to this day, others ended in bitter fights, others I just finally got the hint. Its really a mixed bag with me.
Yeah, about 35 years ago in college. He's a Facebook friend of mine now. Looking back, I should have given him a chance. But at the time I just wasn't feeling it.
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we just continued to date other people and those "SO"s would usually feel a bit uncomfortable with our "friendship". We dated for about a year after HS, had BIG plans for forever..lol..didn't happen...we just strayed in different lifestyles, still a wonderful friend of mine, but there is a 'special love' between us...that has yet to be broken!! I love him to piecees and visa versa, we both just know we are NOT ment to go there again...ever!! 
Looking back, I should have given him a chance. But at the time I just wasn't feeling it.
