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I can already here the, 'who the hell do you think you are to expect everyone to want to talk to you?' Well I don't expect anything, but I've observed something. Most of my facebook friends are old classmates, people have met, travelled with, worked with. On occasion I just like to drop a hi, how's it going by sending a message in facebook chat to them.
I'd say roughly two thirds reply. I don't want to take up their time just see how theyre going. The ones who never reply, I've noticed, tend to be include people who acted as if they were too good for me or other people in general, in real life online. I understand there may be tons of reasons why they would give me the cold shoulder (busy, chatting to enough people, don't wanna start a convo, am annoyed by me) but I've noticed s definite correlation between those who are not so nice in real life and those who never even say hi on facebook. I'm talking people I knew, not just strangers. Don't see it as rude *****, but those who take a minute or so to at preset say hi are generally nicer, or care more about appearing nice.
I never assume anyone actually gets a FB message. Maybe they have FB e-mails going to a junk mail box, or don't have it set to get e-mails at all. It is easy to not notice a new message on FB, and a lot of people don't ever go on there anyway.
^^^^This. I delete people if I don't talk to them over a span of about 12 months. I clean house. If they aren't going to say boo to me in a year then they probably never will. Delete. My SIL did that crap to me for a long time. I don't know what her deal is. She is an odd person. She acts like she doesn't like me. I even asked her one time if there was anything wrong and she said of course not, however she would never respond to me on her posts. Personally I don't think she likes me but doesn't have the guts to tell me. Its was odd and enough so that other people in the family were like, "how come she never says anything to you?" A month before the holidays I sent her PM about plans. She never responded. I deleted her. She actually didnt notice until the follow summer. Then called up my mother asking what was wrong. My mom told her how obvious it was. She sent me a friend request and apologized. So whatever, I accepted her again. I rarely say anything to her and if I do, she just checks she likes my comment, even if I am asking her a direction question like, "how are the kids doing?" She just checks like. Back to the same old same old again. The whole thing is stupid. Facebook is nothing but game anymore.
All these people you want to hear from ... do you ever call them, spend quality time with them, invite them to dinner, send them a party invitation? Do you actually have a social life with them? If not, I think it's amazing that 2/3 reply.
dont take anything seriously on facebook,they add you as a friend just to have a high number of people on their list..i never made a real friend on facebook...they only reply if they want something from you..
So agree, do people really think they have 150 friends? Do they loan you money, bail you out of jail, listen to your problems?
They're not your friends.
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Then called up my mother asking what was wrong. My mom told her how obvious it was. She sent me a friend request and apologized. So whatever, I accepted her again. I rarely say anything to her and if I do, she just checks she likes my comment, even if I am asking her a direction question like, "how are the kids doing?" She just checks like. Back to the same old same old again. The whole thing is stupid. Facebook is nothing but game anymore.
