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My parents and I never had a close relationship. My mom and I are two different people and my father and I have never talked about anything without it turning into a raging argument. My mom's always been a bit too immature for me and my father doesn't know how to communicate at all which gets both of us upset which may be why we aren't friendly to each other.
I am now 19. I haven't spoken to my parents in quite some time. I do want a good relationship with them but don't know how to go about it. They don't even tell me important things that go on in the family and don't pick up the phone when I call either (I have to call my younger sister if I even want to hear them in the background).
Anyone have any tips or pointers that may get me into a better relationship with my parents?
all you can do is try but not much can go forward without your parents trying as well. you also need to take the relationship at face value, for what you know it to be and not hope/or expect things to be better. try not to have expectations of them and do the best you can. limit your time with them unless it is going well. not everyone has great parents you are ahead of the game in that you don't have illusions about how they are. try not to feel guilty for their lack of parenting, it's on them not you
I'd try to consider your relationship from the perspective of each of your parents. Doing that might help identify whatever it is that they don't like, or reasons they try to avoid talking to you. It's worth a try.
How was your childhood ... when you attended elementary school did they support you ... birthday parties ... PTA meetings, attend school conferences and open house to meet your teachers? When you were sick, sore throats, flu, stomach virus did they take care of you?
You are 19 and just entering or completing your teenage years. Did you graduate from high school and are you in college now? Are you living on your own and supporting yourself?
Just trying to get a handle on your situation with your parents. It may be up to you to sit down, no ranting and raving and have a cool, calm conversation with your father. Or sit both parents down and talk to them from your heart. Just get it all off your chest even if you have to ask them to kindly be quiet and listen to you.
Parents are not perfect. We do the best we can and usually ask our children to just give us their best. Sounds so easy doesn't it ... but it's not.
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