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Old 06-30-2012, 05:34 PM
 
Location: East Coast of the United States
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There are so many productive ways we could all be spending our time: reading great books, learning a musical instrument, advancing our career, traveling to a new country, learning a new language, developing an art collection, raising a family, starting a side business, and on and on.

So, do you think that having friends and developing a social circle is worth more than these things? What if you just don't have time?
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Old 06-30-2012, 05:57 PM
 
Location: St. Louis
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There are so many productive ways we could all be spending our time: reading great books, learning a musical instrument, advancing our career, traveling to a new country, learning a new language, developing an art collection, raising a family, starting a side business, and on and on.

So, do you think that having friends and developing a social circle is worth more than these things? What if you just don't have time?
All of those are worthy things but I think we need friends too. Besides, who are you going to use your new language skills on? Who are you going to play the instrument for? Who are you going to discuss the ideas from your books with? What's the point of any of those things without people to bounce ideas off of? I personally could not be out socializing all the time--I'm actually an introvert and often can't wait to get home to my book but I'm much happier overall when my social life is going well--I get depressed when it's not.
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Old 06-30-2012, 06:14 PM
 
Location: Missouri, USA
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It depends on the person. If you're capable of having no social life and not unraveling into a tear-soaked pile of misery, sloshing through a gray half-existence...sure, why not?
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Old 06-30-2012, 06:24 PM
 
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There are so many productive ways we could all be spending our time: reading great books, learning a musical instrument, advancing our career, traveling to a new country, learning a new language, developing an art collection, raising a family, starting a side business, and on and on.

So, do you think that having friends and developing a social circle is worth more than these things? What if you just don't have time?
Well, great books were written by people. Musical instruments created by people. Careers are dependent on people. New countries are about exploring new cultures. Language is to communicate with people. Art is created by people. Family is people.

Looks like people are important.
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Old 06-30-2012, 06:33 PM
 
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Not at all! I love my friends and we have all been through a lot together in thee last few decades. I value any time spent with them.
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Old 06-30-2012, 08:35 PM
 
Location: Boston
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While I definitely do not feel the need to be social all the time or be around my friends very often, I would never say that making friends or being social is a waste of time. Sometimes, it is nice to talk to someone when you feel like it. And with certain hobbies, like learning a language, you need to be social in order to achieve proficiency (let's not even get started on how hard it is to achieve fluency).
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Old 07-01-2012, 06:02 AM
 
Location: The western periphery of Terra Australis
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All of those are worthy things but I think we need friends too. Besides, who are you going to use your new language skills on? Who are you going to play the instrument for? Who are you going to discuss the ideas from your books with? What's the point of any of those things without people to bounce ideas off of? I personally could not be out socializing all the time--I'm actually an introvert and often can't wait to get home to my book but I'm much happier overall when my social life is going well--I get depressed when it's not.
Agree, unless we are hermits we need to make time to socialize, and many activities are done in groups too.
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Old 07-01-2012, 09:15 AM
 
Location: Southwest Desert
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I always think about the old "Twilight Zone" episode where a man felt he didn't need friends or people in his life...He made books his "all and everything" and his "best friends" and had no use for people!...When the world went through "mass destruction" he was happy to find so many books still safe and intact. Then he broke his glasses and couldn't read anymore!...I've gone through periods where I didn't think I really needed friends or many people in my life...Then everyone in my family started "dying-off" including my husband and older son...The one "child" I have left (my younger son) developed brain tumors...Sometimes we really do need people around us who "care." And we benefit from "caring" about others too! This is how I feel today anyway...I'll never be a "social butterfly" and that's okay. But it helps when we let a few people into our life (and our hearts) once in awhile. It's painful to feel horribly "all alone" and isolated and "written-off" and "left for dead" in the middle of the desert!
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Old 07-01-2012, 10:55 AM
 
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It depends on the person. If you're capable of having no social life and not unraveling into a tear-soaked pile of misery, sloshing through a gray half-existence...sure, why not?
This is the most sensible answer. I don't have a social life and I'm fine with that but I certainly don't knock those who do.
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Old 07-01-2012, 10:58 AM
 
Location: White House, TN
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I think that people are a vital part of life. To stay connected is to have fulfillment in your life in my book.
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