Friend has mood swings frequently (person, alcoholic, feel)
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I have a friend that I get together with occasionally, we get along great except from the switchy mood swings. Like the devil just comes out. At first, I ignored it and just figured she was having a bad day. But then it would get more frequent, like she would get a serious attitude if you asked her a question, but then if she was drinking then she was your best friend. I have come to the conclusion that she is most likeable when she is drinking. What is up with this chick? I can't handle the inconsistency. It is so hard to find a friend that is not moody!
I have a friend that I get together with occasionally, we get along great except from the switchy mood swings. Like the devil just comes out. At first, I ignored it and just figured she was having a bad day. But then it would get more frequent, like she would get a serious attitude if you asked her a question, but then if she was drinking then she was your best friend. I have come to the conclusion that she is most likeable when she is drinking. What is up with this chick? I can't handle the inconsistency. It is so hard to find a friend that is not moody!
The first time she did it to you, it was her fault. There are people in the world who think having a outburst is a tool for living, a legitimate way to interact with people.
The second time she did it to you, and every time after that, it was your fault. Not because I'm blaming the victim, but because people do what they can get away with. You evidently allowed her first outburst to go unchecked.
I know someone like that. A quick, "Whoa, I don't put up with that," out of me pretty much nipped that kind of crap in the bud. That being said, a guy who goes on people at the drop of the hat isn't someone I want as a close friend to begin with.
My son acted just like that and was eventually diagnosed as bipolar. He lost a lot of friends prior to being diagnosed. He drove them all away by his behavior.
This is a tough one. What she is doing is self medicating which my son also did.
I don't know the answer to give you. It wasn't until my son tried to commit suicide and was in the hospital that he was properly diagnosed. Once he was put on medication it was like night and day.
I doubt your talking to her about it would help. This is something only a doctor could diagnose and she would have to be willing to see one before she could be helped.
The first time she did it to you, it was her fault. There are people in the world who think having a outburst is a tool for living, a legitimate way to interact with people.
The second time she did it to you, and every time after that, it was your fault. Not because I'm blaming the victim, but because people do what they can get away with. You evidently allowed her first outburst to go unchecked.
I know someone like that. A quick, "Whoa, I don't put up with that," out of me pretty much nipped that kind of crap in the bud. That being said, a guy who goes on people at the drop of the hat isn't someone I want as a close friend to begin with.
It seems like I just draw/connect with these types of women and then I make excuses for their behavior. I don't know what it is. All I do know, is I have been feeling very betrayed by people lately. I feel like I am a better friend than people are to me. It just makes me want to close myself in and not talk to anybody.
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