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Does anyone else find this tedious? I would far rather people not talk to me about their dating lives at all, let alone expect me to go along with their fantasies.
I have a friend whose prospects are about as limited as his social skills. He’s extremely cheap, lives at home with Mum and Dad in his forties, doesn’t drive and rarely leaves the house if he can avoid it. I’m no expert, but it’s fair to say this isn’t a great formula for success at love.
None of this prevents him from boring me to death about various women in his life who he’s convinced were or still are interested in him, and offering half baked theories from the entry level semester of psychology he did to explain why things didn’t work out between them. The truth is obvious, but no matter how politely or often I change the subject, we always end up discussing this.
I would rather come to terms with no-one being interested and get on with living my life than kid myself that everyone from the hairdresser to the receptionist at my doctor’s surgery wanting to have my children, but my friend’s illusions aren’t mine to shatter. It takes all sorts to make a world, even if its conversations go around in ever narrowing circles.
I did something similar once by arranging to catch up with one of his love interests (also an acquaintance of mine) and inviting him too. This, I hoped, would clear up the situation one way or the other without my having to draw a diagram or clunk their heads together.
It didn't work. They resolved nothing and ended up fighting like an old married couple over which dessert to order. I left them to it and went to the movies on my own. The Lobster was quite good.
You sound like a great friend talking terribly about him.
After thirty years I'm a little tired. Can you blame me? Every week he has a new moment of clarity about why x, y or z didn't happen, but makes no effort to improve himself or his chances.
After thirty years I'm a little tired. Can you blame me? Every week he has a new moment of clarity about why x, y or z didn't happen, but makes no effort to improve himself or his chances.
30 years, huh?
You held in pretty good. Yeah, that is tiring. At one point, I just roll my eyes at people like that. They know the problem, but they don't do anything to fix it and they take the insanity route (doing the same thing, expecting different results).
I don't recall ever running across a person that thought everyone was into them. Maybe I have, if I did I can't remember.
It would be annoying to be around a person like that.
There was one person I dealt with like that. They can be pretty funny. But when they get evidence of the contrary, they can be either vindictive (e.g. a friend who notices that a woman that was "into him" was giving me attention) or they can have interesting ways of coping.
And I will admit that I had my days when I was reaching the danger zone of such an inflated ego, unfortunately.
Someone within my extended family is this way.
Everything is related to how interesting people find them. I find them unpleasant to try and converse with since you have to reword yourself in ways that appeal to them or to fit their interests so they can feel engaged and important to the conversation.
They mask it well with their forward facing public face, but the more you get to know them the more you start to see the facade they put up is just to appeal to people.
I could go on wih examples of their behavior, but even thinking about this person kinda annoys me.
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Maybe I have, if I did I can't remember.
