Would a real "20/30 something" beautiful woman lose status by being friends with a very plain overweight woman? (wife, husband)
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I'm thinking if you're a shallow person who picks who you'll be friends with based on looks then possibly yes...
My thoughts exactly.
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Originally Posted by snooper
Lots of these beauty queen women likely spend most of their time talking about beauty, fashion and hair and clothes, so the plain fat women could not relate.
Overweight women like talking about beauty, fashion, hair and clothes as well.
Since I wrote the question yesterday the whole topic caught my interest and went over to a number of public places where 20-40 year old women hung out in groups and it was amazing how much the women who were together were alike both in attractiveness and weight and style and hipness factor. Most people outside of a few city data types hang out with people who are clones of themselves.
My friend circle looks like a Bennetton ad (not an exaggeration). We are all different ethnicities and sizes too somewhat. Ok maybe not, I am at the "large" end of my circle of friends. Most of my friends are slimmer than I am. But they also have weight diversity in their friend circles I am not a part of or only loosely connected with.
Back in middle school, my sister "accused" me of dumping the "less attractive" of my friends. [In reality, we just didn't have common interests anymore]
I never really paid attention to looks in forming friendships, and I have some friends that are really attractive and other friends that are totally average. Do we get along and have common interests? Yes! We can be friends. I don't care if you are black, white, asian, latina, middle eastern or whatever and my friendships reflect this.
It might be interesting to see how my friend circles are perceived by other people. [I have seen people who are visibly surprised when they see us out.]
As most everyone has said, people pick friends with whom they share interests. Women who spend their time dieting and primping will befriend other women who do the same.
Lots of groups of hot girls have the ugly fat friend. Best straight example I can think of is my high school, there were the hot popular preppy girls and one fat ugly girl who looks like Linda Tripp. That's where the term "grenade" came from. I always wonder if another ugly girl wants to join the group, the existing ugly girl gets jealous and the others don't let her in because it might make them an ugly girl group having 2
I once heard a woman I worked with say she likes to go places with people who are heavier and/or uglier than her so she stands out better, so she looks better!! It's very shallow but that's what she said...When she asked me to go to the mall with her to shop, I told her no...I thought "well, I must be dumb or desperate in her eyes" and I was always the jeans type and she was the dress up girlie type and as far as personality, she had none as far as I could tell....If you need to stand next to someone who is not that good looking to look good, that says a lot more about you than the other person you're trying to pull yourself up on. We were both in our 20's then so maybe it was a teenager type thing to do on her part.
AGAIN.... Since I wrote the orginal post a few days ago I have been watching women in groups between 20 and 40 years old and the fashion queens who are PHYSICALLY beautiful are always with other foxy babes too.
I see it all the time especially among moms. These women look perfectly put together at all times, hang out only with like women, allow their kids to socialize only with like kids, and they tend to think that if you are doing something different from what they do, then you are not "normal". They are good at gossip and competition, and if you cross their path, you'll have a cult of shallow women against you. It is sad that these women behave like this.
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