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Old 04-12-2013, 06:47 AM
 
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Most high school friendships/aqaintancships do not last long after graduation. In high school people are usually clicky and very immature, people are trying to figure themselves out in high school. People do not usually figure themselves out once they graduate from high school. You won't be the same person as you were in high school. Your interests will be different from the rest of your peers. I think you won't meet your real friends till you get to college, or start a career because those people will shared the same goals, interests, inspirations as you. Let's face it, most people that you were friends with in high school was only good hang out buddies, smoking/get drunk buddies, sex buddies, and sports buddies. People were only friends in high school due to interests and reputation. What do yall think?
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Old 04-12-2013, 06:53 AM
 
Location: The western periphery of Terra Australis
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I'm surprised by the number of high school friends that have stayed friends (like regularly hanging out even), judging by fb. Some people totally lose contact with their HS friends. I haven't seen most of them for years but I keep in contact through fb.

I disagree, high school friendships can be deep and meaningful and if you're lucky last a lifetime. I'm sometimes jealous of those who still hang out with their HS buddies. After high school it becomes progressively harder to make friends.
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Old 04-12-2013, 06:42 PM
 
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Well personally it didn't work for me. All my classmates were to me are people I was forced to coexist with. Now that I'm out of high school I'd have nothing in common with most of them.
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Old 04-12-2013, 06:47 PM
 
Location: Texas
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Most of my best and closest friends are from high school and college, even though we are scattered all over the world. I am 37...class of '93!!!!!!
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Old 04-12-2013, 08:27 PM
 
Location: Las Flores, Orange County, CA
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Most high school friendships/aqaintancships do not last long after graduation.

In high school people are usually clicky and very immature, people are trying to figure themselves out in high school.

People do not usually figure themselves out once they graduate from high school.

You won't be the same person as you were in high school.

Your interests will be different from the rest of your peers.

I think you won't meet your real friends till you get to college, or start a career because those people will shared the same goals, interests, inspirations as you.

most people that you were friends with in high school was only good hang out buddies, smoking/get drunk buddies, sex buddies, and sports buddies.

People were only friends in high school due to interests and reputation.

Are these assumptions, guesses, or supported by facts and research?
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Old 04-12-2013, 08:43 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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I think what the OP has described is frequently true, but that there are many exceptions. In my own case, the close friends I have now - a rather small circle - were all made after high school. But in response to poster Charles (above) I agree that doesn't prove anything.

I became fairly close to three of my cousins - one male and two female - long after high school, but those are long-distance friendships as we live on opposite sides of the country. But if we hadn't known each other in childhood that closeness would probably have never developped.
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Old 04-12-2013, 09:40 PM
 
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I think what the OP has described is frequently true, but that there are many exceptions. In my own case, the close friends I have now - a rather small circle - were all made after high school. But in response to poster Charles (above) I agree that doesn't prove anything.

I became fairly close to three of my cousins - one male and two female - long after high school, but those are long-distance friendships as we live on opposite sides of the country. But if we hadn't known each other in childhood that closeness would probably have never developped.
And why would that be? I think being friends in childhood would mean a deeper friendship, if anything.
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Old 04-13-2013, 09:28 AM
 
Location: Western Colorado
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My best friend is a guy I met in high school in the 1960's. I was a Senior, he was a terrified freshman and back then hazing the underclass was going on all the time. Felt sorry for the guy and stood up for him. We've been friends since then.
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Old 04-13-2013, 01:41 PM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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For me, the premise of this thread is very true.

I keep in touch with no one I went to high school with, except for one friend whom I chat with on Facebook from time to time (he lives in another state now). Everyone else moved away or wasn't someone I wanted to stay connected with to begin with.
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Old 04-13-2013, 03:33 PM
 
Location: Approximately 50 miles from Missoula MT/38 yrs full time after 4 yrs part time
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Most high school friendships/aqaintancships do not last long after graduation. In high school people are usually clicky and very immature, people are trying to figure themselves out in high school. People do not usually figure themselves out once they graduate from high school. You won't be the same person as you were in high school. Your interests will be different from the rest of your peers. I think you won't meet your real friends till you get to college, or start a career because those people will shared the same goals, interests, inspirations as you. Let's face it, most people that you were friends with in high school was only good hang out buddies, smoking/get drunk buddies, sex buddies, and sports buddies. People were only friends in high school due to interests and reputation. What do yall think?
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Very interesting thread and responses.............................

Obviously the size of the high school; the type of school (rural vs city) and the "era" that you attended will all (IMHO) have an effect on "friendships" developed; how meaningful they turn-out-to-be and how long they will last.

Example:..........................Graduated in June 1950......94 in graduating class....a "Township" High School approx 60 miles from Chicago (remember in that era (1946/1950---right after the end of WWII), lots of open country between Chicago and a community of 4000 out in "rural Illinois.

Like myself, most (approx 50%) of the 94 grads had established "friendships" in those 4 years that have lasted to this present day. Approx 35 to 40 of the grads ended up moving mway from that area in the first ten years after graduation. 2 or3 of the guys were killed in Korea. I left the area and moved out of state 15 years after graduation.........and yet have maintained close contact and maintained friendships with 20 of my class mates to this day.....In fact, just in the last 10 days I have spoken to 2 of them on the phone and received E mails from 2 others.......all of which are still living in Illinois.

Many of us have attended several class reunions (held every 5 years) up to and including 2010 (our 60th Reunion)....and on the average 20 of the 94 attended some of those reunions from as far away as Hawaii and Alaska,....and for the 60th ....total attendees out of the 94 numbered 29!!!!!
I have driven the approx 2300 miles from Montana to northern Illinois for the 50th, 55th and the 60th reunions and am looking forward to the 65th which will be held 2 years from now.

I think some of the reasons for the "great number of close and lasting realtionships" that were developed in those 4 high school years include:
.......90 % of all the guys were into baseball, football, hunting and fishing and enjoyed those activities with one another and those "small groups" tended to remain friends .....some of which have lasted to this day.
.......approx 30% of the students came from "farm families" and another 60% came from "working-class" families........and in those days...in that area....everybody "helped their neighbors and friends" when help was needed!!!!!! Thus the children (students) developed a "closeness" to most of their fellow students.
Out of the 94......6 guys and gals ended up marrying class mates or maybe one year different.

I fully realize that "going to high school some time in the last 25 years".....is ENTIRELY different than when I (and my class-mates) attended from 1946 to 1950. IMHO I don't think I could have attended high school during a "better period". Most of us had some type of a part time job and many of us (myself included) then went on to working-our-way through college and were lucky enough to have "a choice of job offers" upon graduation from college........................
In contrast, my college years only resulted in (1) long lasting friendship.......and we contact each other about every 3 months (2000 miles apart).....and still go pheasant hunting in Iowa once a year.

Going to start my 82nd year next week and thank God every day for the great life I've had, and friendships I have to this day......that started some 67 years ago....................... CARPE DIEM!!!!
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