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Men will have sex with anything. You are full of it to say you have standards. If she has a vagina & boobs, men will seek her out even if it's for a pump n dump.
Men and women cannot just be friends. Leave her alone.
As simple as that statement sounds on the surface, there absolutely some truth to it. I know someone will post that they have had a friend of the opposite sex for years and romance never came into the picture, but more often than not, sooner or later, chemistry starts to kick in.
I have had some ladies of the opposite sex who were casual friends and who I would never want to be romantically involved with, but the ones who were closer than that always ended up with one of us wanting more out of the relationship. A shoulder to cry on, a couple glasses of wine too many, and pretty soon the male/female thing kicks in.
My suggestion is to walk away from this girl. It will always be on his mind that you two had an intimate relationship so it is better if you are gone out of her life forever. If she values her marriage she will want it too. I wouldn't want one of my wife's old lovers hanging around, it would get awkward.
Men will have sex with anything. You are full of it to say you have standards. If she has a vagina & boobs, men will seek her out even if it's for a pump n dump.
I never said I wouldn't.
I mean if she hints at it. Duh. I'm a man.
But I'll treat her like any other female for now.
It's hard to just abandon her. I know her family and friends. So she will come up in my life once in a while.
Either way I deleted her number. I have no way of contacting her.
I did go through a state of depression back when she said we can't be "close" anymore. We used to do everythinnng together. I was the shoulder she cried on. I was that "friend" But that's whole other story.
I was in my teens when I met her. So excuse me if this sounds childish or immature.
I asked the original question because it seems like females have a different way of viewing the world. "Oh yes we can be friends" But I know deep inside I can not be just friends. I will always want her. I wanted you guys to reassure me that Girls and Guys can not be friends. No matter what FEMALES say. It's impossible.
Listen, I will try not to be harsh! I gather from this thread that you are fairly young (20s) so your probably still sowing some wild oats and all.... but, "I'm a man" doesn't cut it. If you want to be a man, a respectful man, a man's man then cut the crap and leave the girl alone. PERIOD! She's engaged as in off limits. I'm not saying to ignore her but have some boundaries and some morals. You should never be in a situation where she can 'hint at it'.
Put yourself in the other man's shoes and do to him as you would want him to do to you..
I'm somewhat of the theory that men and women can't really be friends unless there is no attraction on either end, and I mean at all. Generally if I was hanging around a girl enough as friends, it was a big ploy to one day get her into bed. Men are wired a certain way, and if the girl is cute, I may be able to control my urges, but you know I'd like to see her naked.
And put it this way, when you are married, do you want to hang out with your wife and the guy she was bouncing up and down on...... but it was just as friends, so its OK right? Back off.
Is this really hard? You slept with her. Her husband will not want you around. If she doesn't respect that, she isn't mature enough to be getting married. If you don't respect that, it is your fault if he does something to change your opinion. Clearly, if you are interfering in their marriage, you deserve to be shown the door. If your friendship is creating tension with her soon to be husband, then you are interfering.
If you have any respect for this woman, you'll get out of the way and leave her be. Otherwise you're telling her that your enjoyment is more important than her having a healthy marriage.
Why are you all shaming me when there are other posters who thought similar to me?
I already told you I don't speak to her. She spoke to me. That's why I was wondering what's going on in her head.
Does she honestly think we can still talk?
Do I just ignore her next time.
I don't wanna be an arse I know?
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