Just bought a new house and now am in a big mess!

[Ceece]

Have whatever celebration at your house that you like and invite everyone you want. Also let them know where the motels nearby are. That's as far as you have to think.

[GrappleHooks]

OP, do you happen to have a legal wife and/or kids stashed somewhere? Either way, I don't blame your parents for expecting better for and from you: what parent wants to say their child bought a home with a girl he's seeing but not seeing?

[silverwing]

Originally Posted by GrappleHooks

I don't blame your parents for expecting better for and from you: what parent wants to say their child bought a home with a girl he's seeing but not seeing?

Seriously?

He's an adult who has entered into a relationship based on his (and his partner's) own personal parameters. His parents have a right to not approve, but in this case they are being punitive and even going to the extent of trying to force other family members to participate in their coercion.

Are his actions wise? *shrug* Maybe not. But disapproval is as far as his parents can go without sounding thoroughly spiteful and controlling.

I've cut off family members for that crap, telling them, in affect "I respect your right to disapprove of my (legal) choices, but if you think you have the right to punish or coerce me, then maybe we don't need to see one another for awhile."