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When someone shows signs of being toxic is it better to move out right away or give them a chance to see if maybe they aren't really that bad? In the past, I've wound up getting into things with toxic people and I feel it's better to walk away at the first clear sign. Because if I let them stick around, I feel like I'm just rolling in the mud with a pig.
Okay. I just ditched a new acquaintance after getting a whiff of toxic behavior. (Wanting to argue, competitive, one-upping comments).
Smart move. You did not have a long history with them and if they are showing the above traits right off the bat it won't get better. People like this drive others away and often blame others or life for them not being able to form friendships and relationships. Them changing is very rare unless some major life event or epiphany occur. Even that may not work.
Boundaries are your friend, particularly in situations where you're likely to continue to encounter the problematic person.
Greet them pleasantly and keep things superficial. Do not sit next to or near them at social events - find others to converse with and reasons to move on or leave if it looks like you're getting stuck with them. Be unavailable if they try to involve you more, either online or in real life.
Don't stir the pot. Do not be confrontational, or bite on their bait.
I did this successfully recently when a bad penny from my past unexpectedly showed up. I wish this person well in every sense of the word - but cannot be the cure, particularly at the cost of my own well-being.
Seems to be a lot of these semi-vague threads about so-called "toxic" people lately, I wonder why.
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