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Old 10-09-2013, 08:54 PM
 
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At my last job I made friends with co-workers and we would party every once in a while. Dated the boss's daughter without him knowing of course and life was so great for about a year. But after we broke it off, I finally realized what a terrible mistake we made. It made life and work pure hell.

Bad idea to make friends at work? No, just don't inform them about every aspect of your life and don't get too personal. People talk.

And coming from experience, I highly advise against dating a co-worker.
Yeah, I think your right about not informing them a lot about my personal life. I think they may disagree with some of the things I do outside of work lol.
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Old 10-09-2013, 09:17 PM
 
Location: Raleigh
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It all depends. You can meet close personal friends at work, you can meet people that are great to get lunch with, you can meet people that are nice to talk to at the coffee maker, and you meet people that you can't stand. And some people are just fun to go to a twice-a-year happy hour with. Dating in the office is a delicate situation and a whole other thread, but sometimes people make it work.
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Old 10-09-2013, 10:04 PM
 
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I've made some lifelong friends through work. Just talked to one yesterday who moved cross country.

However, while you can make good friends through work and you can make good friends outside of work, it is a lot harder for a friend to come work in the same office as you. Because the dynamics change in ways you don't expect.
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Old 10-09-2013, 10:18 PM
 
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I've been distancing myself from some work friends lately, only because the time we were spending together became a huge
bit-h session about work or people at work, and in the position I'm in, I don't want to be considered part of the gossip mill.
Good plan, as long as you don't mind being talked about behind your back. An unfortunate consequence of taking the high road is that it can make you a target.
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Old 10-09-2013, 10:25 PM
 
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As a supervisor you can't be "friends" with the grunts. Having said that you need to be sociable, meaning able to carry a conversation on something other than work, but not social.
In some cases I agree, but not always. I was a manager for Blockbuster in their heyday, and was friends with my staff outside of work. I just made it clear that during work hours, we had to accept the work hierarchy. Maybe it was the staff I had, or the fact that we all socialized together, but it worked out fine. Our turnover was low, our shrinkage was low, and I never had trouble getting people to come in on short notice. Our staff was small and a store is its own little universe...I can see how it could be more difficult to pull off in a larger environment like a factory.
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Old 10-10-2013, 01:27 AM
 
Location: Northern CA
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Yes.

Be friendly, but keep your coworkers at arm's length. They are not your friends.
I completely agree with this, don't make things more complicated with personal relationships.
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Old 10-10-2013, 02:16 AM
 
Location: Miss Jankins (Say nothing bad).
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People have told me that you go to work to "work" not make friends. I've been at my place of employment for about a year and half. When I first started, I met a couple of girls who are also supervisors like me and I suggestged that we all go out to luch sometimes. For a while we would go out once maybe twice a week. Then we all decided to hang out outside of work and we all went to the movies and dinner. Recently, over the past few months when I would envite them over to my house for parties or other places, they have both been bailing out or will make an excuse why they can't make it. I just say "okay" and keep it moving.

I have not really said anything directly to them about it or asked them why. I'm wondering if I should say something or just let it go and not invite them to do anything else?
That is a great sentiment! Although it disappoints my co-workers greatly, I leave my home at home and my work at work.
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Old 10-10-2013, 05:31 AM
 
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I've made friends at work; however, because the initial bond was the fact that we worked at the same place, once one or the other of us left, that friendship faded into non-existence. There have been one or two that I've kept in touch with; but as a rule, once we were on different 'work' paths, there went the so-called friendship.

I agree wholeheartedly about not sharing personal information with coworkers; best to just keep it light.
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Old 10-10-2013, 09:17 AM
 
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I rather have an enemy at work than a friend.
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Old 10-10-2013, 09:27 AM
 
Location: california
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I would say that unless the invite is reciprocal, it is not a friendship.
Don't push something thy don't feel engaged to return.
It's not worth the drama
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