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How do you feel about a friend who keeps his/hers wedding plans a secret, then expects to continue friendship like nothing ever happened. Is it ok to mentioned lightly like it would have been nice to know, even if the invite list was limited etc.
You haven't given enough info to receive an intelligent answer.
You sound like you might be a bit bitter? You might try to see the situation from the friend's point of view. What might have been the reason for her actions?
How do you feel about a friend who keeps his/hers wedding plans a secret, then expects to continue friendship like nothing ever happened. Is it ok to mentioned lightly like it would have been nice to know, even if the invite list was limited etc.
I dunno. This is such a touchy topic with no perfect solution. Where one person will say they would've liked to hear about wedding plans, details, etc, even if they weren't invited, another would say it's tacky to talk about an event around those who aren't invited. My guess is the friend was just trying to be polite in not crowing over the details in front of someone she knew she couldn't invite. Aren't there lots of other things you can talk about?
I guess I wouldn't mention it at all. Some people just don't view a wedding as a big, public event. Some want to just get married for a JP. Some want to elope. Some want something very small and private. And for some, the wedding is just another day, the relationship and marriage being the most important thing. I really wouldn't even sweat it.
I'm eloping and won't tell anyone about my wedding. It's none of your business. Be happy they didn't ask you to fork over insane amounts of money to be in their wedding, buy a gift and/or fly for a theme'd or cruise ship wedding, like was done to me.
A good friend would be supportive of that decision, and not bitter over it.
If they eloped in a secret wedding, do not take it personal. It was their choice to go and do something without broadcasting it. Probably because they did not want people to make a big deal of it.
Weddings are touchy, peculiar beasts, just like the brides who plan them. I think I shared too much with too many people when I was planning my wedding (namely my co-workers), because when it came down to it, we weren't able to invite them all and I felt really rude. Maybe your friend is keeping her plans a secret because there's something she really wants to do but it might not work out and she doesn't want so many people being disappointed. Maybe she has something really awesome planned, but it will be a surprise for the guests, and she feels the less she talks about it the less likely she is to accidentally spill the beans. Maybe she's just a really private person. Wedding planning can be intensely personal. How close is this friend to you? If you've been BFFs since you were 8, then yeah, I'd probably be offended if she didn't share. If she's closer to the acquaintence end of the spectrum, then don't worry about it. It's her wedding, and it's her choice who to involve and to what extent. She'll either share with you in her own time, or she won't, but don't let it get you so upset that you discontinue your friendship. Just wish her well and carry on.
It's their day, not your day or anyone else's day.
That being said, they will have to face the repercussions of their decisions.
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