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Old 11-11-2013, 07:52 PM
 
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In my community, there is a "thing" where the folks that live here complain endlessly on Facebook about the speed at which people drive in the community. The speed limit is 25. The clicky stay at home moms - who do not have to suffer through traffic & long commutes - have decided that 15 is the max appropriate speed.

I've been driving 25 miles per hour. Today, one of the clicky moms stopped by my house and informed me that I was driving at an inappropriate speed. She quoted 90 miles per hour, which is factually not correct. I drive 25 mph. She said that her kid often bolts into the street without looking, and she wants everyone to drive slow enough to avoid her kid. She also sets up cones and sticks "slow children at play" signs in the middle of the street to slow people down.

I am wondering if I am obligated by society to listen to her. Clearly, driving 25 mph in a 25mph zone is legally permissible. I also want to get along well with neighbors.

I do not like following the directions of others - I have been successful in life because I choose to ignore other people in many situations. I would probably be living with my parents and working at a dead end job if I chose to follow what society thought of me. Instead, I have a successful job at a city distant from my parents, and also have a beautiful family.

Thanks.

No mean comments please - I'm sincerely asking real questions here.
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Old 11-11-2013, 07:55 PM
 
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Good lord, man up and slow the hell down. My dog was hit and killed on a 25 mph street - could have been a small child. Just show some common courtesy.
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Old 11-11-2013, 07:58 PM
 
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In my community, there is a "thing" where the folks that live here complain endlessly on Facebook about the speed at which people drive in the community. The speed limit is 25. The clicky stay at home moms - who do not have to suffer through traffic & long commutes - have decided that 15 is the max appropriate speed.

I've been driving 25 miles per hour. Today, one of the clicky moms stopped by my house and informed me that I was driving at an inappropriate speed. She quoted 90 miles per hour, which is factually not correct. I drive 25 mph. She said that her kid often bolts into the street without looking, and she wants everyone to drive slow enough to avoid her kid. She also sets up cones and sticks "slow children at play" signs in the middle of the street to slow people down.

I am wondering if I am obligated by society to listen to her. Clearly, driving 25 mph in a 25mph zone is legally permissible. I also want to get along well with neighbors.

I do not like following the directions of others - I have been successful in life because I choose to ignore other people in many situations. I would probably be living with my parents and working at a dead end job if I chose to follow what society thought of me. Instead, I have a successful job at a city distant from my parents, and also have a beautiful family.

Thanks.

No mean comments please - I'm sincerely asking real questions here.
First of all, it's "clique".

Second of all, just be a good neighbor.

If someone asks you to slow down or accuses you or speeding, just let them know you understand their concern for their children and will do your best to be sure you continue to drive carefully.

25 IS fast on certain types of streets, so even if it's the legal limit I can see why concerned parents might ask their neighbors to do 15.
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Old 11-11-2013, 07:59 PM
 
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Yes, you are obligated. Perhaps not legally if you aren't exceeding the speed limit, but to be warned about children playing in the area, and not taking pains to avoid a tragedy is just stupid. I crawl through our neighborhood. Who would want to live with the guilt of hitting a child?
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Old 11-11-2013, 08:02 PM
 
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This seems like a decision an adult with a drivers license ought to be able to make himself. If kids are out playing, slow down.
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Old 11-11-2013, 08:15 PM
 
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This seems like a decision an adult with a drivers license ought to be able to make himself. If kids are out playing, slow down.
I've received 2 speeding tickets in 20 years of driving. One accident in 20 years - not due to speeding. No kids were playing outside at the time that I was driving. Folks around here seem hypersensitive to driving speeds.
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Old 11-11-2013, 08:15 PM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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In my community, there is a "thing" where the folks that live here complain endlessly on Facebook about the speed at which people drive in the community. The speed limit is 25. The clicky stay at home moms - who do not have to suffer through traffic & long commutes - have decided that 15 is the max appropriate speed.

I've been driving 25 miles per hour. Today, one of the clicky moms stopped by my house and informed me that I was driving at an inappropriate speed. She quoted 90 miles per hour, which is factually not correct. I drive 25 mph. She said that her kid often bolts into the street without looking, and she wants everyone to drive slow enough to avoid her kid. She also sets up cones and sticks "slow children at play" signs in the middle of the street to slow people down.

I am wondering if I am obligated by society to listen to her. Clearly, driving 25 mph in a 25mph zone is legally permissible. I also want to get along well with neighbors.

I do not like following the directions of others - I have been successful in life because I choose to ignore other people in many situations. I would probably be living with my parents and working at a dead end job if I chose to follow what society thought of me. Instead, I have a successful job at a city distant from my parents, and also have a beautiful family.

Thanks.

No mean comments please - I'm sincerely asking real questions here.
It is the parents responsibility to watch her child. If her child bolts into the street the parents ARE NOT watching their child well enough. Perhaps the child is too young to be playing unsupervised in the front yard by the road.

Be a nice neighbor, knowing that the irresponsible parent is not watching their child, and slow down and watch very carefully when you go past her house.

However, if your neighbor blocks the street with cones and signs I would call the police and report it. That is a lot more dangerous than people who are driving the posted speed limit.

BTW I am a parent of two children and a grandparent of one child. When my children were too young to be trusted NOT to bolt into the street. I watched them! I didn't block a public street with cones and sticks. Sheesh

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Old 11-11-2013, 08:16 PM
 
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How about the parents train their kids to not run out into the street?

OP, are the traffic cones and "kids playing" signs legal? Check with your police department. She might be interfering with traffic.
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Old 11-11-2013, 08:18 PM
 
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Nod politely and carry on, just be sure to be very careful and aware in residential neighborhoods. There could always be a kid, cat, dog etc that bolts out.
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Old 11-11-2013, 08:20 PM
 
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people. If you hit and kill a child, will you feel fine about it, as long as you were going the speed limit?
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