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I have a couple younger cousins that started doing this and I ended it quickly. I started telling them if they had somebody else with them to not come at all. I'm inviting you, not you "and" your other buddies. I don't understand why some people have to have somebody around them at all times.
It annoys my husband and myself that we can't seem to get his sister to hang out with us without her bringing a "crew". She always said she wished we lived by her, but due to job obligations we didn't. So now we finally do, but when there's a holiday or we go to dinner, have a holiday meal, Christmas, Thanksgiving, etc. we try to get together but she always has to have a "crew" and we don't have the space at our house. We go to hers, but it sucks because the "crew" is there so we end up sitting in some corner or we don't get a seat, and we hardly get to see her or talk to her because of the loud "crew" party. Also the "crew" has drugs, illegal drugs, and we don't want to be a part of that. Sometimes a crew member might be REALLY loud and rude and doesn't allow anyone to talk or get in a word edgewise, so forget getting to actually talk to anyone in the family. Myself and FIL get migraines so one particular crew member makes it impossible to have a good time. Some of the "crew" also are underage drinkers that SIL allows, and once the cops were called (thankfully we'd already left) DH and I want no part of that.
We don't understand why SIL can't just hang out with us. We were going to have her for T-giving, but we can't really afford to feed a "crew". Nor do we want to have to provide seating for 12-15 people, or have strangers in our home, sneaking up to our rooms to make out, do drugs, or possible steal. People we don't know. She said she'll "invite whoever the hell she wants". Um, no. So we aren't having anyone here.
Like Pentatonic, we don't know why she has to constantly have people around her either. Why can't Thanksgiving and Christmas be about family? She's even leaving the family for Christmas to go out of state to be with some other non-related people too. It's like, wow... after years of complaining you never see us, here we are and boom, you're gone. Non-related "crew" mean more to you. Don't complain when one day we leave. I wish we could go see my family instead, but we can't afford it and I don't have the time off work. My family NEVER do this.
LOL This is hilarious! Talk about feeding crew members. They normally have a verocious appetite!
I dont know if she can ever learn to travel alone. Seems like this ""crew"" habit is difficult to break.
Anyone who needs a "crew" obviously considers themselves to be the "captain." They create this crew to sooth their own fragile egos, giving themselves the illusion of security and a higher social position. They surround themselves with a coterie of admirers because they are incapable of interacting with anyone on their own and need a buffer between themselves and the world around them.
Obviously this person annoys you and you have no respect for them either...so it's time to look inward as to why you stay friends?
What are you getting out of this relationship? This person isn't the problem, you are! When you figure out why you need this person you can work on that and it won't be your problem anymore.
I know thugs that have a crew with them all the time
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