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Would it p*ss you off if a "friend" always thought it was ok for you to drive almost an hour to see her, yet she NEVER has driven to your neighborhood? When she plans things she only wants to do things within 5-15 minutes from her house. We live almost an hour apart.
I am ALWAYS the one suggesting we meet in the middle. I live in a nice neighborhood, so it's not like I'm asking her to jeopardize her life driving into a gun-infested hood. I've driven to her neighborhood countless times, until I started to see how one-sided this "friendship" was.
She's even wanted me to give her some clothes and various items of mine. I tell her she can have/borrow them, but she needs to come get them. Suddenly, she doesn't want them anymore. I've called her out on it and she just shrugs, admits she's lazy and lame about it.
I'm thinking this "friendship", if you can call it that, has fully run it's course.
I'm reminded of the Camel's Nose In the Tent parable. Look it up. It sounds like your "camel" keeps pushing the envelope. If you don't push back and draw the line somewhere, you're heading for bad news.
Some people really do not like to drive outside too far outside of the zone where they feel safe and comfortable. Some people don't like highway driving, or hate getting lost in unfamiliar places. Could that be an issue?
Some people really do not like to drive outside too far outside of the zone where they feel safe and comfortable. Some people don't like highway driving, or hate getting lost in unfamiliar places. Could that be an issue?
She has a nice vehicle with a navigation system and takes the highway to get to other places we've met up at. We've met up once at a place kind of close to me, but she was benefitting from another friend giving her free tickets. I've called her out on it and she admits she just doesn't feel like it if it isn't convenient. I've put my foot down for awhile now and refuse to drive up to see her/hang out anymore.
That is annoying. I think you did the right thing, just tell her you don't want to make that long drive right now...if she really wants to see you then she'll make the sacrifice for once. Her reaction will be telling on if the friendship has run it's course.
It could be that she's being cheap about the gas and doesn't want to use her car much. Ask her for gas money for your car if you have to drive her around or just sit and wait it out. If she reciprocates and comes your way, then she cares enough to see you. If not, she's a user.
Would it p*ss you off if a "friend" always thought it was ok for you to drive almost an hour to see her, yet she NEVER has driven to your neighborhood? When she plans things she only wants to do things within 5-15 minutes from her house. We live almost an hour apart.
I am ALWAYS the one suggesting we meet in the middle. I live in a nice neighborhood, so it's not like I'm asking her to jeopardize her life driving into a gun-infested hood. I've driven to her neighborhood countless times, until I started to see how one-sided this "friendship" was.
She's even wanted me to give her some clothes and various items of mine. I tell her she can have/borrow them, but she needs to come get them. Suddenly, she doesn't want them anymore. I've called her out on it and she just shrugs, admits she's lazy and lame about it.
I'm thinking this "friendship", if you can call it that, has fully run it's course.
You got it. While I read your post, all I could think was, "'Friend' does not belong in the title."
Can't answer you now, off to drive to my friend's house that is over 30 minutes away who never comes to my area. LOL. But, she is going to help me with my divorce papers.
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