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Been to four funerals this past year, a really crappy year dealing with deceased relatives. I may make a brief statement,
like "RIP my Cous" or something like that and take a few minutes to do some silent prayer to em..
I've never witnessed anyone taking a photo of a deceased relative and personally find that kinda morbid. I prefer to remember
them living and laughing, not laying in a casket, that's difficult enough to deal with especially when they die young.
I went to a funeral home yesterday to pay respects to an old friend who had died. There were lots of people "hanging out" by the deceased sitting so peacefully in his casket. I noticed two interesting things I had never seen at a wake before:
1) A number of people stood over the body for the longest time and spoke to him like he was alive. A long speech directed at him because of course he could not talk back.
2) A number of people took pictures of Andy, the deceased, lying in his casket.
Are these proper things to do at a wake at a funeral home?
I went to a funeral home yesterday to pay respects to an old friend who had died. There were lots of people "hanging out" by the deceased sitting so peacefully in his casket. I noticed two interesting things I had never seen at a wake before:
1) A number of people stood over the body for the longest time and spoke to him like he was alive. A long speech directed at him because of course he could not talk back.
2) A number of people took pictures of Andy, the deceased, lying in his casket.
Are these proper things to do at a wake at a funeral home?
I talk to the body in the casket if it is someone I loved or cared a deal about. No long speeches. I have my say and touch their hand. No big deal.
Not everyone is as staid as you, OP. I have seen people talk to the loved one in the casket. My grandmother and her sister had photo albums with a couple of snapshots of relatives "lying in state."
If that ruffles your feathers, Google "Victorian post-mortem photography." We're talking posed portraits with recently deceased family members. That will blow you away.
I went to a funeral home yesterday to pay respects to an old friend who had died. There were lots of people "hanging out" by the deceased sitting so peacefully in his casket. I noticed two interesting things I had never seen at a wake before:
Just for the fun of it, I'll respond as if I believe this is a real post:
You seem to be a person filled with misery and self-loathing that you project onto others. Quit looking for excuses to judge other people, it's the beam in your own eye that should concern you and not the mote in others' eyes.
If that ruffles your feathers, Google "Victorian post-mortem photography." We're talking posed portraits with recently deceased family members. That will blow you away.
Yes, definitely creepy, but that was the custom back then.
Yes, definitely creepy, but that was the custom back then.
I get it. Relatives often were very hands-on during the death and post-mortem stage, so being around a deceased relative wasn't THAT unusual back then.
Nowadays, just like with our trash, "someone else" takes the body away and "prepares" it for us.
All of this OP's posts make it feel like he's just emerging from a long sleep and is overflowing with (judgy) questions about the world around him.
Either that or he recently got an internet connection.
The "deceased" are not literally dead. In body, yes. In spirit, no. They absolutely can hear everything their family and friends are saying. In heaven, there is a portal where they go to watch and listen to all the major events of their relative's lives here on Earth. Including their own funeral. So I would think twice about your assumptions.
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