New friend is doing lots of talking and little listening but..,

[Granny Fats]

I think you should move on, and she should move on, to find others more sympatico! Or limit the contact you have to situations where something is being DONE, so that the monologues cannot start (like the movie but NO lunch). She may just have a very expansive personality and feel close to these other people somehow, but if the friendship is not a good fit, taper off your contact.

[Tracysherm]

I can totally relate to your complaint about her talking about total strangers you don't know and don't care about. I actually had a thread about that:

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[Mr_Geek]

Sounds like a very tiring relationship. This person is very self absorbed. I'd find a friend who you could actually tolerate the majority of the time.

[seain dublin]

Originally Posted by Granny Fats

I think you should move on, and she should move on, to find others more sympatico! Or limit the contact you have to situations where something is being DONE, so that the monologues cannot start (like the movie but NO lunch). She may just have a very expansive personality and feel close to these other people somehow, but if the friendship is not a good fit, taper off your contact.

If you go to a movie with someone over lunch so they will have less opportunity to talk, than forget the movie as well...LOL. This is someone you don't want to spend time with.

You're first sentence got it right. Move on.

It sounds like the OP nervous about being in a new area rushed into this "friendship" because they belong to the same church and sing in the choir together. It's wiser to take it slow in situations like this, I get the feeling this didn't happen.

OP should just find some excuses to not get together after choir practice and start limiting the phone calls, it will eventually peter out. Doesn't sound like it has been going on that long anyway.

Use this as a learning experience. Go slower next time, I would rather be by myself than around people who annoy you just to have company.

[GoldyViolet]

Tough situation my friend. I hate these types of things. I've been there. I wouldn't cut her off completely as it sounds like you'll still be seeing her frequently. Would she be open to talking about this? (My guess is no)

[BBBentley]

Originally Posted by biscuitmom

She's a die-hard gossip and probably talks about you to others, in the same way that she talks about others to you.

I'd keep her at arm's length.

And isn't that the truth about gossips in general?

If they gossip to you; it's a sure bet that they gossip about you!

Ditch that "friend".
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