Neighbor Harassment Since Moving Here - Caught Him Spraying Something On My Door, Balcony Today (children, sister)

[NeighborProblems]

Thanks to all who understand the seriousness of this. No, I will no longer entertain those of you who find my situation funny.


I used to wonder why abused women stayed, now I see the saying is true: When you are seeking help, you have no one to turn to because no one believes you. FINALLY, I see what abused women deal with and why many suffer silently.

Things have escalated but my real life issue will no longer be used for you all's entertainment.

[catdad7x]

Originally Posted by NeighborProblems

Thanks to all who understand the seriousness of this. No, I will no longer entertain those of you who find my situation funny.


I used to wonder why abused women stayed, now I see the saying is true: When you are seeking help, you have no one to turn to because no one believes you. FINALLY, I see what abused women deal with and why many suffer silently.

Things have escalated but my real life issue will no longer be used for you all's entertainment.

Ok... so giving you the benefit of the doubt about your story. You've already received numerous pieces of very good advice from other posters. What more do you want? We can't solve your problem over the net, only you can do that.

[Woodie54]

Originally Posted by NeighborProblems

PLEASE read, in need of desperate advice from someone older and wise.

My mother and I moved into these apartments about 8 months ago.

The male neighbor has been giving me hell since then but now becoming dangerous.

The 2nd day we moved in, he heard us coming in the house, then he told someone he didn't like my ass.

The 3rd day, we were coming in, he slammed his door, then loudly said, "Them ******* back, huh!" Whoever he was talking to didn't say anything, so he repeated himself.


Well, I work from home and don't go out much, so don't see him that often. However, when I would talk on the phone, I'd hear him opening my balcony gate, then I'd peek out the window to see him standing there listening to me as I talked on the phone.

Other than that, when my mother was at work, I'd just smell something funny smelling every now and then and become really sick. I'll get to this in a minute.

By this time, I wanted to report him, but my mother didn't want me to. She just said ignore him to keep it as peaceful as possible. My mother is the friendly Christian, turn the other cheek type of person, so even though he acted this way, she continued speaking to him. I would just try to avoid eye contact.


Other than that, there was no drama for months--just him listening to me inside the house on the phone, for whatever reason.


Now, yesterday, I woke up to him talking loudly to some female outside my bedroom window.

He was telling her some lies about my mother and I--saying we were talking about her and others. Later, I heard her and some other ladies talking loud about how they will whoop a$$, etc. Referring to us.

We ignored it. Last night, I was online working (work at home) when I smelled something funny, became really sickly again. I went and woke my mother up, asked if she smelled anything, but she was extremely sleepy so said, "No." and went back to snoring.

Now, this morning, around 10 am, I woke up to him playing music loudly outside my bedroom window. I looked outside, he was on the balcony/patio in front of my window. It seemed like he was waiting for me to see him, because he was out there playing the music while facing my window. When he saw me looking, he went and picked up some black spray bottle, started spraying something all over my patio. A few minutes later, I began feeling sickly again.

So, I called my mother, told her enough was enough, I'm calling the cops. I only have a Google phone, so I had to call the non emergency number. It's been over a hour, I'm still waiting on them.

Mind you, we don't hang outside. We don't know any of these people. We've never done anything to them. I don't understand where all the hate and harassment is coming from. The only thing I can think is we don't fit in. They smoke, drink, party, etc. whereas we don't.

He's married with kids--about 5, 7 and 13. I don't know why they have issues with us--especially him. I've met up with him outside maybe 10 times since being here. I've only saw the women roughly 2 times since being here.

The ONLY time we go outside is to take out the trash, go shopping, go somewhere and my mother to work. We don't sit on the balcony, none of that. I keep to myself, don't even look at these people because they are very cliquish. They just stare when we walk by. My mother keeps to herself as well except she speaks even though the majority don't speak back.

Have you ever experienced this? Any clue why all the hatred for people they don't even know? Mainly this guy.

UPDATE: I don't have transportation, my mother is at work, I'm still feeling extremely bad but now my head is hurting badly and feeling weaker. Cops haven't came yet.

Have ou move into a project?

[NeighborProblems]

Hi, firstly, I understand how it must come across to you all. I can understand why some may think it's a joke and I'm creating stories or I'm a nutcase because I'm seeking advice from strangers and still struggling to make moves because that's hard to do when you have an extremely fearful mother who just wants to try keeping peace and goes off on me for trying to get us both away from here, land lord who favors the other tenant and said do not get the police involved again, police who knows the people and land lord very well, yes the land lord did say her son also works for the force. So, yes, I KNOW I am coming across as an awkward storyteller who's watched too much Lifetime--but if you've ever been in a dangerous situation, no money, nowhere to turn and extremely afraid, then you would probably understand me better.

If nothing more, if anything does happen, I guess the police will investigate my online activity to see this even though know that many of you think I'm fabricating things, who knows if the police will even take me serious if something happens and I end up dead. Since my extreme fear and confusion has me coming across as unstable, when in reality, I'm just someone who has NO ONE or NOWHERE to turn to.

YES, I had an account here a few months back when the harassment first started. I can't remember the account name, but I had asked a question regarding moving into a new neighborhood, people acting funny and my mother and I are the keep to yourself kind of people which means we don't fit in here because everyone else seem to be more outgoing, drink, smoke, etc. I also stated the neighbor going through our trash, etc.

I NEVER thought things would get to where they are now. I thought once they seen we don't interfere, they would just leave us be and keep it peaceful.

The last that's happened is the neighbor has been going around getting everyone to sign some sort of paper and telling them to agree to this story he made up about us being the one doing the harassing. He's been here longer, those are his friends, so of course they are signing the paper and all working together now. YES IT IS REAL! I hoped for the best, but the wiser ones on here warned me that I was wishful thinking. He's retaliating now.

He was doing it on the stairs in front of our apartments, talking loud to make sure I could hear. I thought he was actually in my patio again, so I peeked out the window, then he started walking back n forth mean mugging me until I stopped looking while one of his female friends yelled out for me to close the damn blinds.


This is a situation I will NEVER forget! I see it all the time in the news and movies, but never thought it would be me experiencing this. Not sure if I gave you all my number and you called to speak with me directly--if that would let you know this is serious. I can't make you believe me, but it's not a game.

Whoever said it looked like I moved on drug turf was pretty accurate. I think it's that they could tell we don't fit in, are suspicious of us since we don't talk much, wanted us out because thought we might be snitches and are now doing whatever possible to make us leave. If we don't then they'll take more severe actions.

Originally Posted by catdad7x

Ok... so giving you the benefit of the doubt about your story. You've already received numerous pieces of very good advice from other posters. What more do you want? We can't solve your problem over the net, only you can do that.

[NvLadyslipper]

Just to clarify the cellphone issue. The phone will call 911 in the area where it was put into service. Then, if you move, you CAN call 911 but it will connect to the old area of residence. That is a problem with number portability. To correct this, you have to get the number changed to the local area. It would be easier to get a cheap "throwdown" phone from Wally World just to have a local connection with police fire, etc. This could also be an issue if you do need fire, rescue, etc.

Now, for the guy next door. Definitely inform your LL, both verbally and with a letter (keep copies of ALL paperwork). Not only is he harrassing you, he is stalking you, clearly breaking the law. Call the police each time he does this. Ask the officers for a written report--forming a paper trail. Keep at it. The LL does have a responsibility to provide a safe environment for his tenants. Persistence will pay off. Best of luck to you!

[timtemtym]

You can also get a regular land line phone. I'm sure a friend will give you an old one or go down to goodwill and spend a quarter. You plug it in to the wall, no service is needed. Every phone jack must be able to call 911, if it doesn't, call your local phone company. You DO NOT have to pay for service, this is the law, a phone jack must have access to 911 services.

[ChicagoMeO]

is this life in a bad neighborhood? i have never seen any neighborhood this bad the way the OP describes. i have no idea what to tell him/her. I would have thoroughly checked out the neighborhood before moving in even if i were totally broke.

[armory]

Originally Posted by Tcoma11

Go buy a firearm. That'll make you feel at ease. Maybe put an NRA sticker on your bedroom window.

Then just wear earplug or headphones for the next few months. Buy an air purifier from costco and use it ( then return it when you move since costco has an unlimited return policy) No biggie.

First thing I though of is to arm yourself but wanted to find out where you are. What city and state are you in? He probably wouldn't like a few .38 holes in his gut.

I think you to be very young - true?

Go out and buy a camera capable of good videos. I like my Canon for that reason. Video everything the nut does everywhere he is and put it on your computer so you can put it on a flash drive or CD. You shouldn't have cracked your door when the cops were interrogating him as he knows you were paying attention. You should have had the female officer call for an ambulance when they were there.

Have you ever seen Cape Fear? It reminds me of Max Cady.

[armory]

Originally Posted by calisteph

I'm not going to read 9 pages of bs to find out, sorry but I have better things to do.

Like posting replies to that which you have no clue about?

[Klassyhk]

Originally Posted by NeighborProblems

Hi, firstly, I understand how it must come across to you all. I can understand why some may think it's a joke and I'm creating stories or I'm a nutcase because I'm seeking advice from strangers and still struggling to make moves because that's hard to do when you have an extremely fearful mother who just wants to try keeping peace and goes off on me for trying to get us both away from here, land lord who favors the other tenant and said do not get the police involved again, police who knows the people and land lord very well, yes the land lord did say her son also works for the force. So, yes, I KNOW I am coming across as an awkward storyteller who's watched too much Lifetime--but if you've ever been in a dangerous situation, no money, nowhere to turn and extremely afraid, then you would probably understand me better.

If nothing more, if anything does happen, I guess the police will investigate my online activity to see this even though know that many of you think I'm fabricating things, who knows if the police will even take me serious if something happens and I end up dead. Since my extreme fear and confusion has me coming across as unstable, when in reality, I'm just someone who has NO ONE or NOWHERE to turn to.

YES, I had an account here a few months back when the harassment first started. I can't remember the account name, but I had asked a question regarding moving into a new neighborhood, people acting funny and my mother and I are the keep to yourself kind of people which means we don't fit in here because everyone else seem to be more outgoing, drink, smoke, etc. I also stated the neighbor going through our trash, etc.

I NEVER thought things would get to where they are now. I thought once they seen we don't interfere, they would just leave us be and keep it peaceful.

The last that's happened is the neighbor has been going around getting everyone to sign some sort of paper and telling them to agree to this story he made up about us being the one doing the harassing. He's been here longer, those are his friends, so of course they are signing the paper and all working together now. YES IT IS REAL! I hoped for the best, but the wiser ones on here warned me that I was wishful thinking. He's retaliating now.

He was doing it on the stairs in front of our apartments, talking loud to make sure I could hear. I thought he was actually in my patio again, so I peeked out the window, then he started walking back n forth mean mugging me until I stopped looking while one of his female friends yelled out for me to close the damn blinds.


This is a situation I will NEVER forget! I see it all the time in the news and movies, but never thought it would be me experiencing this. Not sure if I gave you all my number and you called to speak with me directly--if that would let you know this is serious. I can't make you believe me, but it's not a game.

Whoever said it looked like I moved on drug turf was pretty accurate. I think it's that they could tell we don't fit in, are suspicious of us since we don't talk much, wanted us out because thought we might be snitches and are now doing whatever possible to make us leave. If we don't then they'll take more severe actions.

OMG, this sounds like real ghetto drama! This is either housing projects or low-income-charge-according-to-your-income apartments. Apparently the man doesn't work because it appears from your story he is at home all hours of the day and night just hanging outside and loudly talking to people. I'm surprised you were able to live there for 8 months before it got that bad. Ghetto people usually can not put their negative behaviors on pause for that long.