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is this life in a bad neighborhood? i have never seen any neighborhood this bad the way the OP describes. i have no idea what to tell him/her. I would have thoroughly checked out the neighborhood before moving in even if i were totally broke.
Yes, in most ghettos that behavior would be typical. Police are commonly called to the complex and are familiar with many of the people who live there. The landlord usually doesn't enforce the rental rules and regulations so any and all types of behavior is practiced by some of the residents and/or their children.
Not all, but many of the residents have no respect for others. They are loud, often neglectful, have little to no respect for the property. They allow their children and friends to carry on the same behavior towards the place.
When a person doesn't have much money, a savings nest egg, or a high paying job, they don't have much of choice as to where to live. They pretty much live where ever the rent is low and there is a vacancy and not a lot of hoops to jump through in order to move in (no two months security deposit required, no credit check, no requirements of a high credit score, or other similar foolishness). Unfortunately, these are also the types of places where people who will make your life a living hell live as well.
Thanks to all who understand the seriousness of this. No, I will no longer entertain those of you who find my situation funny.
I used to wonder why abused women stayed, now I see the saying is true: When you are seeking help, you have no one to turn to because no one believes you. FINALLY, I see what abused women deal with and why many suffer silently.
Things have escalated but my real life issue will no longer be used for you all's entertainment.
Your situation sounds odd. Your postings are even odder.
But your commentary about abused women is a complete fallacy and likening your situation to that of abused women makes you appear completely clueless and indulgent. Stop playing around and get real.
Your situation sounds odd. Your postings are even odder.
But your commentary about abused women is a complete fallacy and likening your situation to that of abused women makes you appear completely clueless and indulgent. Stop playing around and get real.
Huh? I work with abused women and found nothing out of the ordinary about what she said. Where do YOU get that it is a complete fallacy?
... your commentary about abused women is a complete fallacy and likening your situation to that of abused women makes you appear completely clueless and indulgent. Stop playing around and get real.
Not only is it not "a complete fallacy" but the analogy is appropriate in context.
Yes, in most ghettos that behavior would be typical. Police are commonly called to the complex and are familiar with many of the people who live there. The landlord usually doesn't enforce the rental rules and regulations so any and all types of behavior is practiced by some of the residents and/or their children.
Not all, but many of the residents have no respect for others. They are loud, often neglectful, have little to no respect for the property. They allow their children and friends to carry on the same behavior towards the place.
When a person doesn't have much money, a savings nest egg, or a high paying job, they don't have much of choice as to where to live. They pretty much live where ever the rent is low and there is a vacancy and not a lot of hoops to jump through in order to move in (no two months security deposit required, no credit check, no requirements of a high credit score, or other similar foolishness). Unfortunately, these are also the types of places where people who will make your life a living hell live as well.
While a lot of what you're saying is true, the OP stated that both her and the mother work. And she is the same poster who did a thread awhile back about people staring at them and smoking pot in the courtyard, when they were moving in.
Didn't you see this behavior(this man seems to be around 24/7 and doesn't work) when you looked at the place?
When you go apartment hunting, you go more than once, you check the area out at night, you check out the local supermarket, in other words you do a little research. Especially if this is a lower income area where concerns like crime and drug dealing(that what is sounds like is going on) come into play.
They have two incomes coming in so are they that broke? I doubt it. And it is possible to live in lower income areas that have quiet buildings, doesn't sound like any research was done before moving in.
The OP also has a Google phone(I had to look that up, they're not cheap), how about getting a track phone at Target for under $30 that will allow you to dial 911?
Huh? I work with abused women and found nothing out of the ordinary about what she said. Where do YOU get that it is a complete fallacy?
The abused women stay in their situations because they're scared and ultimately aren't sure where to go/what to do. There are many support groups, advocacy and intervention groups designed to help these women. I don't know how its done in your area but in my home state if the cops are called on a DV dispute, they're not supposed to leave without arresting someone. I've actually know women who cried abuse just to give their S/O some hell, even when the guy has not even laid a hand on them. My sister in law was one of them, there was proof that she attacked him, even admitted in the 911 call that she attacked him (and that he hadn't touch her) and her man was actually lectured by the cops that he's not even supposed to get angry and hollering about the fact that his gf (my SIL) was cheating on him and was arrested on a domestic dispute charge. It cost him a lot of pain, money and time just to deal with the aftermath.
If anything, they bent backwards to help abused women, and things are set up to help them. They're believed even when the "victim" is lying. The true victims that suffer in silence are actually the men who are abused by their women... They get scoffed at and people generally don't want to believe them.
Yes, in most ghettos that behavior would be typical. Police are commonly called to the complex and are familiar with many of the people who live there. The landlord usually doesn't enforce the rental rules and regulations so any and all types of behavior is practiced by some of the residents and/or their children.
Not all, but many of the residents have no respect for others. They are loud, often neglectful, have little to no respect for the property. They allow their children and friends to carry on the same behavior towards the place.
When a person doesn't have much money, a savings nest egg, or a high paying job, they don't have much of choice as to where to live. They pretty much live where ever the rent is low and there is a vacancy and not a lot of hoops to jump through in order to move in (no two months security deposit required, no credit check, no requirements of a high credit score, or other similar foolishness). Unfortunately, these are also the types of places where people who will make your life a living hell live as well.
thats amazing to hear that.. since i live in chicago, on the chicago forum here there is a topic about a "no snitching" policy. where people in the ghetto know who committed a crime (murder or whatever) and they are too afraid to report it - either its loyalty to the criminal or "oh he's a good boy" or fear of being a snitch and then the murderer getting revenge on you, so that also perpetrates even more crime. the other reason being loyalty as when someone leave "da hood" they are accused of being an Uncle Tom for leaving onto a better life and then the people still in the ghetto feel the reason the person left was that they were better than them, (stuck up) and also get mad at the person who left - when they dont return to help the ghetto, they get mad and get accused of "so and so didn't remember where he came from" and get pissed off at that.
YES, I had an account here a few months back when the harassment first started. I can't remember the account name,
Well for heaven's sake write this user name and your PW down on a piece of paper and keep it in your wallet. Should another neighbor (or the Orkin man) come around spraying fluids of dubious origin on your patio and you get sicker and sicker and weaker and weaker you won't have to waste lot of time creating an account.
Well for heaven's sake write this user name and your PW down on a piece of paper and keep it in your wallet. Should another neighbor (or the Orkin man) come around spraying fluids of dubious origin on your patio and you get sicker and sicker and weaker and weaker you won't have to waste lot of time creating an account.
Ever so true! And if you read pretty-much ANY spray can, it is clearly stated in the fine print, and maybe even in bold print, that use for anything other than the official intended use (I'm not saying that right, but that's the gist. I'd read from a spray can, but we don't have any...) is a FEDERAL CRIME. That's definitely the case with dangerous products like insecticides.
What that creature is doing to you violates all kinds of laws. If the locals won't help you, maybe the Feds will.
And the Landlord, in not helping you, has basically negated the contract/lease. All you have to do is PROVE what has been done to you.
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