Neighbor Harassment Since Moving Here - Caught Him Spraying Something On My Door, Balcony Today (business, mother)

[hunterseat]

Document and take pictures. Prepaid is the bomb, girl, get yourself a phone! And a can of mace! I think I'd have to confront him in your kindest manner and treat him as if he's a mental case (as far as you know he is). Ask him about his behavior, be sure to record the interchange. Kill him with kindness? But work into the conversation your displeasure and how you'll be force to do something since you have all those pictures of him misbehaving.

Don't be a doormat but do be careful. And cover your backside with documentation, witnesses, pictures. Build a case and, right before you move, maybe they'll evict him instead.

[NeighborProblems]

I haven't read the newest responses yet but will after the latest update.

About 40min's ago, my mother came home and said the apartment people wanted to talk to me.

The older lady who is over everything was basically on his side as she drilled me. She started telling us that he's been living here for a few yrs with no complaints. How he's a single dad raising 3 kids by himself. Every once in a while, he gets a girlfriend staying there with him, but usually it's just him and the kids. He takes great care of the kids and they are always clean, yada, yada.

How he told her he cleans up our patio. Mind you, again, we NEVER go outside unless we're going somewhere. Since we've been here, his kids have written on our door and they are always throwing trash on our patio, so when she said he cleans our patio, my mother and I said, "WHAT!" Totally confused. I then told her, maybe he's talking about when his kids throw trash and dirt on our patio. She just looked at me like whatever, then said, it's not his kids, it's the people upstairs. I then told her, "I have seen his kids doing this on a weekly basis." She didn't want to hear none of it.

She told us that he came there with a tragic story, that's heartbreaking, but she couldn't go into details with us about it. Then she went back to complimenting him on how he's just the nicest gentlemen who basically can do no wrong.

She voluntarily told me that he can spray wherever he wants to because he and the kids are allergic to certain things. I explained to her that whatever he sprays is messing with my health, how I get sick, then asked if she was saying he has permission to spray on my side. She said there are no laws preventing him from spraying and basically f*** my health even though the cops said it's trespassing and not legal.


She drilled me on calling her before the cops. From the bias conversation, I'm happy I called the cops and filed a report because I can tell she thinks he can do no wrong and would have just sided with him as she did this time. She said he can't break the lease because of course, he's not a problem. Hopefully, I won't have to call neither of them again. We've decided we'll just have to pay the money to break the lease, then we are moving in two weeks when we get paid.

Thanks again for the advice and your time.

[DewDropInn]

Originally Posted by STT Resident

So delightful when the buzzards start circling and every first-time poster is their dinner.

This buzzard didn't read the OP until drama was over.

Had this buzzard come upon this saga in progress I would have told the OP to stop wasting time, (since he was getting sicker and weaker) call his mother (or a friend), tell HER what's going on...... and ask her to call 911.

[rbohm]

Originally Posted by STT Resident

Before the police arrived I suggested to you earlier, "Ask the police to please write a report and get a copy of it - it'll cost you a couple of $$s but it's best to document everything in case things escalate (which hopefully they won't)."

Call them back on the non emergency number and tell them you would like a report.

I'm not sure why you're now saying, "But it really does seem like they could care less... ... Police didn't take it serious." They responded to your call, they talked to both you and your neighbor, they told the neighbor to stay away from you - exactly what more did you expect? A full SWAT team, a forensics expert, having him led away in handcuffs?

how about the officers take the issue seriously, and not joke around with the person being complained about? how about the officers having a professional attitude and not treating the person that was complained about as if he was their best friend.

[rbohm]

Originally Posted by NeighborProblems

I haven't read the newest responses yet but will after the latest update.

About 40min's ago, my mother came home and said the apartment people wanted to talk to me.

The older lady who is over everything was basically on his side as she drilled me. She started telling us that he's been living here for a few yrs with no complaints. How he's a single dad raising 3 kids by himself. Every once in a while, he gets a girlfriend staying there with him, but usually it's just him and the kids. He takes great care of the kids and they are always clean, yada, yada.

How he told her he cleans up our patio. Mind you, again, we NEVER go outside unless we're going somewhere. Since we've been here, his kids have written on our door and they are always throwing trash on our patio, so when she said he cleans our patio, my mother and I said, "WHAT!" Totally confused. I then told her, maybe he's talking about when his kids throw trash and dirt on our patio. She just looked at me like whatever, then said, it's not his kids, it's the people upstairs. I then told her, "I have seen his kids doing this on a weekly basis." She didn't want to hear none of it.

She told us that he came there with a tragic story, that's heartbreaking, but she couldn't go into details with us about it. Then she went back to complimenting him on how he's just the nicest gentlemen who basically can do no wrong.

She voluntarily told me that he can spray wherever he wants to because he and the kids are allergic to certain things. I explained to her that whatever he sprays is messing with my health, how I get sick, then asked if she was saying he has permission to spray on my side. She said there are no laws preventing him from spraying and basically f*** my health even though the cops said it's trespassing and not legal.


She drilled me on calling her before the cops. From the bias conversation, I'm happy I called the cops and filed a report because I can tell she thinks he can do no wrong and would have just sided with him as she did this time. She said he can't break the lease because of course, he's not a problem. Hopefully, I won't have to call neither of them again. We've decided we'll just have to pay the money to break the lease, then we are moving in two weeks when we get paid.

Thanks again for the advice and your time.

the land lady is out of line. you had a legitimate complaint about another tenant, and she is blowing it off. and call her before calling the cops? is she serious? i suggest an attorney, specifically one that deals in tenant/land lord relations.

[Lilac110]

Originally Posted by apexgds

OP, first and foremost, get yourself a real phone. Stat. Even if it's a prepaid phone. If something serious goes down, you need the ability to call 911.

Next, contact the landlord and discuss your options. He may be willing to let you move into a different unit away from this neighbor for the remainder of the lease.

I agree. You can get a Verizon prepaid for $40 a month, and you can take pictures and video with it to record this guy when he's standing outside your window.

Also, the landlord needs to know that this guy is spraying stuff. It's bad enough that it's making you sick, but it's the landlord's property, not his, and he could be damaging it.

[NeighborProblems]

lol NO, I wasn't expecting all of that. I did think that they would take notes and see exactly what he was spraying however. Never had to call the cops before, so all new to me.

Originally Posted by STT Resident

Before the police arrived I suggested to you earlier, "Ask the police to please write a report and get a copy of it - it'll cost you a couple of $$s but it's best to document everything in case things escalate (which hopefully they won't)."

Call them back on the non emergency number and tell them you would like a report.

I'm not sure why you're now saying, "But it really does seem like they could care less... ... Police didn't take it serious." They responded to your call, they talked to both you and your neighbor, they told the neighbor to stay away from you - exactly what more did you expect? A full SWAT team, a forensics expert, having him led away in handcuffs?

[phonelady61]

yep maybe you should tell the landlady since she does not seem to be able to handle things you will talk with an attorney and if she don't like that just too darn bad for her and keep telling her you are documenting everything she has said as well so when she is called into court you want to have everything right ..You watch her start to twitch then . Tell her unless she wants to be sued for an unsafe living environment she will get rid of that tenant .Or you will be speaking with an attorney .

[BOS2IAD]

Please get to a doctor ASAP! With those symptoms you're having, you need to have some blood work done. Also, there will then be a record showing that you did see a doctor and also there will be a record showing what the blood work found.

Your health is at stake here!---Both your physical and mental health!

[beera]

Next time he starts to spray something or goes on your property open the door and tell him GO AWAY or you will call the cops again. He does not need to go to your door or spray anything. I have never heard of kids having allergies and needing to spray OTHER PEOPLE'S homes...

I'd be pissed as hell if somebody were spraying stuff on my door. SPECIALLY if it's bug spray! I have two pets who have very sensitive respiratory issues and bug spray can kill them. He and his kids are allergic to what? Your freaking door?

I'd move out now, F the lease.