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No, I have several great friends, one I've been friends with for 35+ years. Of those 5 great friends, 4 would probably say I am they're best friend. MY best friend is my husband.
I'm sure thru FB & stuff, they see the others refer to me as they're best friend, but they all know I love them and I'm a great friend. They all know of each other and have at one time or another met, 3 of them live in different states.
In fact, they all know so much about each other thru me, 2 have daughters close in age and I relay what craziness one or the other is up to, they appreciate the fact that their not going thru it alone, knowing somewhere someone else is going thru the same thing.
WHen I was younger, yes, definitely mutual. And I see this with my daughters too. (ages 5-12). Now that I'm older…well, first of all, I don't feel the need to rank my friends…but I have a couple of "best" friends…that are not part of the same friend circle. I guess if you are talking about friends in the same circle, it could possible be awkward to call one a best friend that didn't consider YOU her best friend back.
My "best" friends all live very far away from me though. So, obviously I don't expect them not to have other "best" friends. Maybe if they were local it would be different. Or if I were still 16
I don't think it matters. Social relationships are so fluid that people don't have to have be the top dog in someone else's eyes to have a true feeling of closeness or mutual admiration.
True, some folks form a pair bond, but it's okay if it isn't symmetrical.
I don't think it matters. Social relationships are so fluid that people don't have to have be the top dog in someone else's eyes to have a true feeling of closeness or mutual admiration.
True, some folks form a pair bond, but it's okay if it isn't symmetrical.
Agree. Back in 2005 I had a best friend that probably considered me a very good friend. He lived with his best friend but because they worked different shifts, they rarely hung out together. My best friend and I hung out at least 3x per week, until I traded up to a new best friend - my girlfriend.
The concept of "best friends" should remain undeclared unless it's been pointedly discussed between said friends. I was present when, at an evening gathering of friends, a "best friendship" was publicly declared unilaterally, and the resulting awkwardness was excruciating.
I was going to say the same thing, however when I really think about it there are at least 2 people who probably consider me their best friend, and I on the other hand just consider them friends.
I enjoy her company and everytime we get together we have tons of fun, but her religious and political views are totally different than mine. After she took me out for my birthday, she lamented that she didn't see me for a whole month afterwards.
I felt bad, but there are other people who I feel closer to that I would rather spend time with.
I read a study where they found that the majority of the time best friends are NOT mutual. So I wouldn't worry about it if you are your best friend's second best friend.
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I was going to say the same thing, however...
