Do you enjoy visiting your family (parents, siblings, children, grandparents, in-laws, etc. )? (spouse, person)

[woxyroxme]

Originally Posted by daylux

But my husband's parents are dysfunctional and so is my family (drunks)

Sounds like my situation, my mom and my brother live to annoy, most of my wife's family are drunks. On the flip side the bright spots are my wife's youngest sister, my daughter and son in law.

I lost my favorite aunt and cousin a year ago, it's a shame they lived so far away and I never got to see them more.

[stan4]

Most of them, yes.

[Jay100]

Originally Posted by daylux

This will sound bad, but it's like swallowing a bitter pill for me (and him, he calls it 'brutal'). It's completely obligatory for both of us with certain family members.

But my husband's parents are dysfunctional and so is my family (drunks) so it's difficult for many reasons. I feel like I drag my body over there. This will also sound bad, but I really wish our next move was at a distance where we didn't have to visit so much.

Anyone else? Why or why not?

I enjoy visiting most of my biological relatives that I grew up with and know well. I do not like most of the in laws and relatives' new girlfriends/boyfriends. A few in laws are cool people that I like but, most I wish did not exist. The ones I dislike are just people I would never associate with...they're now in families' homes but have to be polite

[tijlover]

I love visiting my family members, but not less than every 10 years!

[dothetwist]

Originally Posted by daylux

This will sound bad, but it's like swallowing a bitter pill for me (and him, he calls it 'brutal'). It's completely obligatory for both of us with certain family members.

But my husband's parents are dysfunctional and so is my family (drunks) so it's difficult for many reasons. I feel like I drag my body over there. This will also sound bad, but I really wish our next move was at a distance where we didn't have to visit so much.

Anyone else? Why or why not?

Careful what you wish for. Once you move far away, when you visit it will most likely be for days at a time, staying with family 24-7. Better to just make that Sunday afternoon one or two hour visit, IMO.

[The Dissenter]

Haven't seen any of my extended family since I was 17. I went to visit my mother last year, decent visit, just wish she didn't live in God forsaken Kentucky. She wants to move closer to my area, if it works out, I won't object to visiting her once a month.

[cam1957]

I love spending time with my family. There's about 10 of us and that includes nephews and great nieces & nephews.

In the summer, my one sis has a pool and we get together every other Sunday for a pool party. Sometimes we have different food themes like make your own pizza with those Boboli shells and the kids love that. We've done Mexican, Italian, Hoagies and sometimes all appetizers.

We spend all holidays together and me, my 2 sisters and my niece take turns hosting.

My sisters and I try to get together for lunch once a week (doesn't work well in the winter) or sometimes a "girls night out".

I have a bro in another state and we talk every day. One in China and don't hear from him much. The other brother is here, but he's drama.

Mom & Dad died years ago but we always were close with them.

I was lucky to be blessed with a good family.

[Cida]

Look at it this way - it's better that you're going there, so you can leave when you want. Worse if they were to come to you.

But maybe you both could talk to counsellors to see if you could develop better ways of interacting.

[MamaBear999]

I am having a hard time with it lately; my brother-in-law cheats on my sister-in-law and I know all of the details. I really don't know how I am going to handle myself the next time I see him. I am so grossed out. How do I look at him and treat him like a normal person again? Once a year is plenty for me to see them!

[Curmudgeon]

Parents, grandparents and in-laws all deceased. Children, stepchildren and grandchildren aplenty. The closest are 700 miles away. Most are 2,000 miles away. Do we enjoy visiting? In moderation, yes!