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My mother, grandmother, and aunt are coming from TN to IN to visit me this weekend. I was in TN two weeks ago, had to work last weekend, and am now having to entertain them.
I really didn't want them to come this weekend as this is the first weekend I've had in a long time where I'm not either traveling, working, or doing something with my girlfriend, but they pretty much decided at the first of the week that they were coming up, and that was that. My input wasn't even asked for.
Do you ever feel like the out of town family just comes when they want with little regard for your input?
My mother, grandmother, and aunt are coming from TN to IN to visit me this weekend. I was in TN two weeks ago, had to work last weekend, and am now having to entertain them.
I really didn't want them to come this weekend as this is the first weekend I've had in a long time where I'm not either traveling, working, or doing something with my girlfriend, but they pretty much decided at the first of the week that they were coming up, and that was that. My input wasn't even asked for.
Do you ever feel like the out of town family just comes when they want with little regard for your input?
One of my brothers tried to pull this BS when he decided to hop into his car and take a road trip to visit people on the way up from California. Apparently he had no trouble seeing his friends, but when he surprised me with a call that he was on his way I told him flat out no, that he couldn't. We were about to attend a four-day festival, which he would not have enjoyed, and the guest room was full of junk for the festival. His feelings got hurt but too bad.
It's RUDE to assume that someone can drop everything they're doing to accommodate someone they're not ready for.
Last edited by Bluesmama; 04-17-2015 at 05:29 PM..
My mother, grandmother, and aunt are coming from TN to IN to visit me this weekend. I was in TN two weeks ago, had to work last weekend, and am now having to entertain them.
I really didn't want them to come this weekend as this is the first weekend I've had in a long time where I'm not either traveling, working, or doing something with my girlfriend, but they pretty much decided at the first of the week that they were coming up, and that was that. My input wasn't even asked for.
Do you ever feel like the out of town family just comes when they want with little regard for your input?
What do you mean your input wasn't even asked for? You do have a tongue don't you? You don't wait for them to ask your "input", you tell them just what you said here.
It is rude to just visit someone without asking if it's ok. But on the other hand they are close family and it's not like you have other plans. What does entertaining them entail? Can't they just entertain themselves?
I can see why some would be turned off by that, but, in my family, its expected that extended family has a place to stay if they are passing through the area. Thus, my mother's uncle and aunt can come to visit us from North Carolina with very short notice, and the other way around. When my maternal grandmother was alive, we'd stop by her house unannounced all the time. She loved it, but I know that some people don't.
If I was in the OP's situation, I'd suck it up as entertaining those relatives won't be the worst thing in the world and I wouldn't want to cause any heartbreak by telling them "no" (I'd feel terrible for a while after the fact, especially if I "shunned" those who raised me). But that's me. I won't bash anyone who decides otherwise.
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