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Considering her loyalty and friendship ties, you should be able to make the right decision-just accept her apology for now
I don't find her to be loyal. I used to enjoy her as a person, but she got hurt when I said I wanted to break off ties with the toxic friends (also her friends) and took it personally. While I told her that we could still be friends, she still distanced herself from me.
and what do you mean by "friendship ties"? Her friends are not mine, so we don't have any mutuals.
UPDATE: we cleared things up. She said she was wrong for saying some things and I said that I regretted saying some things, etc. It is now forgotten business.
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Last edited by Miss Blue; 04-27-2015 at 01:10 AM..
Reason: off topic
Honestly, I don't know how else to ask for advice? Believe it or not, I do want closure. It's not the issue of "accepting things" but the fact that I don't know what state of a relationship we are in now. I personally think that approaching her again would only make things worse. I'm sorry that you find me as the wrong doer in this situation, but as I said, my goal is to figure out how to leave the conflict ie: do I ask her directly how we should get along? do I leave it alone and grow apart from her?
You are looking for something you already have you just have yet to accept that you have it.
She blew up, she apologized, it is done and over.
As far as protecting her, none of your business, her choice to have the friends she wants and you should have never said anything in the first place.
You described her friends as toxic. That makes her toxic as well, and the fact that you led with your observation of her life as one of privilege indicates some envy on your part, which is also toxic.
An apology changes none of this. You need to examine why you want to remain connected to this dysfunctional group of people. It is a bad choice and reflects on issues within you that you desperately need to address.
You described her friends as toxic. That makes her toxic as well, and the fact that you led with your observation of her life as one of privilege indicates some envy on your part, which is also toxic.
An apology changes none of this. You need to examine why you want to remain connected to this dysfunctional group of people. It is a bad choice and reflects on issues within you that you desperately need to address.
Agree with this (above).
What's your real motive here? If she's toxic, her friends are toxic and you've moved on to a better place, why the interest? Because she has money and can do things for you?
If your situation is as you've described, you'll likely always end up feeling like an outsider.
And believe it or not, just because she has money & all the stuff you can't afford/don't have, you shouldn't assume her life is perfect and wonderful. Money doesn't = happiness. Really it doesn't.
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