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I have a lot of people I know and talk to at work and school, but never talk or hang out outside of those places. I only have one or two "true" friends-those I can tell my deepest secrets, my feelings, and hang out whenever.
Do you have only one or two friends or none at all, and many acquaintances? What do you think I might be doing wrong to only have acquaintances? I am a shy person in general and sometimes it takes awhile for me to open up to people. Should I just try to make more conversation? Anybody else have this problem or had this problem? If you got over it, what was your solution?
I'm a lot like you. Even though I have a lot of acquaintances I only have a very small number of friends. Like you I struggle with opening up to people and can be shy. All of this makes it really hard to make friends. Plus I don't meet many people whom I have anything much in common with.
I have far more acquaintances than true friends. Only have a few real friends, one of which is my husband. I'm introverted and don't need a lot of friends or socializing. I'm not shy although I was as a kid. I personally don't think its wrong to have mostly acquaintances but that's me, you may feel differently. However, I really don't think it's a right or wrong thing but more of a preference.
When I do want to get to know someone I just put forth the effort to be genuinely interested in them; ask questions (not too personal though), make conversation about things we're both interested in.
Sometimes it takes awhile but there's nothing wrong with that. I once worked with a lady who I wanted to get to know better because she seemed like a nice person and someone I'd want for a friend. We didn't become "fast friends," rather it evolved over time. Fifteen years later we are still very close friends, despite the fact we no longer work together or even still live in the same area.
I am a shy person in general and sometimes it takes awhile for me to open up to people. Should I just try to make more conversation?
I'm an introvert. Here's the thing about being introverted: Because we enjoy our own company, we sometimes unwittingly give the impression that we don't need other people. I didn't realize this until someone got annoyed with me and said, "Why don't you ever let anyone help you?"
So I very carefully and very cautiously make a point of asking acquaintances for small favors. Most people want to be helpful. I don't really need to get restaurant recommendations -- I've got the web to consult -- but I ask peoples' opinions. Or ask what type of carpet I should buy for the house I'm remodeling.
You won't strike up lasting friendships with everyone but occasionally a spark catches fire and you gain a new friend.
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I know many faces and names of people if we happen to meet at the same place or event. I don't feel like I have any "true" friends. I don't have any friends that I've known for a long time. It difficult joining a social circle when I've isolated myself from the world in my teen years and my 20's.
I have a lot of people I know and talk to at work and school, but never talk or hang out outside of those places. I only have one or two "true" friends-those I can tell my deepest secrets, my feelings, and hang out whenever.
Do you have only one or two friends or none at all, and many acquaintances? What do you think I might be doing wrong to only have acquaintances? I am a shy person in general and sometimes it takes awhile for me to open up to people. Should I just try to make more conversation? Anybody else have this problem or had this problem? If you got over it, what was your solution?
Don't know how old you are but you will find in life to consider yourself lucky if you have two really good friends. Once you experience a job lay off, a serious illness, etc you find out who supports and helps and who doesn't.
seain dublin,s right on....if you have two good friends consider yourself fortunate.
A true friend is a friend for life....they're sometimes hard to come by.
Some people consider they have many friends...until they're really needed, and then suddenly they're no longer around.
I had many acquaintances. But no friends currently. In my life, I had 1, and that was when I was 6 lol she moved to Texas however, and came back for a while when we were both 10, and we seemed to get along as well as before. But she left again by the end of the school year, and I haven't seen her since then.
I am introvert, and very shy. I can talk to people with no problem, if they come to me 1st. I am just shy in approaching people and making first moves. I have done it a few times, but it's rare, and usually the people I do it for aren't interested in my company, or conversation. Least it's the vibe I get. So I keep to myself and am far from outgoing. So socially, that's the death of me. lol but I am very sensitive to rejection or snubbing. So I avoid it by staying to myself.
I had many acquaintances. But no friends currently. In my life, I had 1, and that was when I was 6 lol she moved to Texas however, and came back for a while when we were both 10, and we seemed to get along as well as before. But she left again by the end of the school year, and I haven't seen her since then.
I am introvert, and very shy. I can talk to people with no problem, if they come to me 1st. I am just shy in approaching people and making first moves. I have done it a few times, but it's rare, and usually the people I do it for aren't interested in my company, or conversation. Least it's the vibe I get. So I keep to myself and am far from outgoing. So socially, that's the death of me. lol but I am very sensitive to rejection or snubbing. So I avoid it by staying to myself.
That's sort of was my case as well in my teens and early 20's. A lot of acquaintances, but no real friends aside from one (who I'm still friends with). Over the past couple of years, that has changed, though.
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