My friends call me stupid (person, member, affection, abuse)
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One of my friends (let's call her Jane) always calls me stupid when I don't remember something or when I make a mistake. She's naturally the 'cool one' in our group and she knows it. My other friend also calls me stupid but she's joking, because I know that she thinks I'm smart. Another of my friends is the ultimate dumb one in our group but I love her for it. Whenever she doesn't use common sense, I laugh affectionately and hug her. I love her for her stupidity. The others don't get it. Jane says that I have no common sense and I don't know anything. I know that I'm forgetful and not updated. But that doesn't mean I'm stupid. I mean of course I'm sometimes stupid; making stupid decisions, doing things wrong; but no need to remind me of it constantly. I hate it when she just drops it so casually like it's no big deal. She knows I don't like pop music but when she asks me if I've heard a new popular song, she always expects everyone to be updated on everything and like the things she likes. Example: Jane loves 'See You Again' and when I said I don't like it she just rolls her eyes and sighs like she's tired of me. When I say I don't like mainstream things she makes fun of me like 'oh, but Tumblr is mainstream'. When I say that I actually mean that I don't like the things that she or my other friends like. Once when my friends called me pretty, Jane said 'you must be blind' like she was amused. You might think that she was kidding but I know her well. She's always been a b*tch but I didn't mind. I still love her but it hurts when I have to talk to her or my friends and I have get-togethers. It hurts so much because she's my oldest friend and I don't want to let her go. I don't want to stop being friends with her. I just want her to understand me but I'm too scared to speak out. Scared of what she'll think. Scared of the judging. What do I do?
I had a best friend like her a long time ago. It was torture because we were friends for so long and she would say the same things to me like your friend does.
Best thing I ever did was to let that friendship go! People like her suck the soul out of you. She is taking the best parts of you and making you feel small and crappy. She will never change and I promise you it will get worse. Just start distancing yourself from her.
Since then I have several amazing friends. My now best friend, lifts me up and makes me laugh every day. I love being around her unlike my other friend who made me feel like I was walking on eggshells. Friends should make your life better not worse.
You are the punching bag of the group & they love to have you around because of that. True friends who care about you deeply dont call you stupid. These are just a bunch of mean spirited people who bully others to feel better about themselves. You are probably a teenager & think adult world will be better but you will come across plenty of people like Jane in your workplace, family, neighbors. Find a way to deal with such people. You should walk out of that group right now & find better quality friends. Don't get pushed around as it becomes a habit to wallow in self pity & think why this happens to you all the time. People can be mean & you should know how to protect yourself & your self respect. Tell your friends clearly that you don't like their attitude & how they treat you. If they value your friendship then they will change. Otherwise, just drop them. Abuse comes in different forms & you are often abused by people you trust & love the most. Be so confident, bold & secure that you should have no second thoughts about leaving an abusive person behind, no matter how much you love them. If you don't, it becomes a pattern & only the face of the abuser changes but the stories of abuse will remain similar.
One of my friends (let's call her Jane) always calls me stupid when I don't remember something or when I make a mistake. She's naturally the 'cool one' in our group and she knows it. My other friend also calls me stupid but she's joking, because I know that she thinks I'm smart. Another of my friends is the ultimate dumb one in our group but I love her for it. Whenever she doesn't use common sense, I laugh affectionately and hug her. I love her for her stupidity. The others don't get it. Jane says that I have no common sense and I don't know anything. I know that I'm forgetful and not updated. But that doesn't mean I'm stupid. I mean of course I'm sometimes stupid; making stupid decisions, doing things wrong; but no need to remind me of it constantly. I hate it when she just drops it so casually like it's no big deal. She knows I don't like pop music but when she asks me if I've heard a new popular song, she always expects everyone to be updated on everything and like the things she likes. Example: Jane loves 'See You Again' and when I said I don't like it she just rolls her eyes and sighs like she's tired of me. When I say I don't like mainstream things she makes fun of me like 'oh, but Tumblr is mainstream'. When I say that I actually mean that I don't like the things that she or my other friends like. Once when my friends called me pretty, Jane said 'you must be blind' like she was amused. You might think that she was kidding but I know her well. She's always been a b*tch but I didn't mind. I still love her but it hurts when I have to talk to her or my friends and I have get-togethers. It hurts so much because she's my oldest friend and I don't want to let her go. I don't want to stop being friends with her. I just want her to understand me but I'm too scared to speak out. Scared of what she'll think. Scared of the judging. What do I do?
Jane is a stupid ***** and is not your friend. Dump her.
These ******* are not your friends, find better people to hang out with and move on.
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