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I certainly wouldn't be standing on a bus spot at 4am in the dark. I live in a quaint little town and walk a few steps to my car at 4:15am and every day I do it I feel a little nervous.
The OP doesn't make sense at all!
In my lifetime of working, two buildings have had parking lot work done, and no one ever told the employees to completely alter their transit plans.
You just can't park in the parking lot. Doesn't mean you can't drive.
Garden variety unconscious condescension. He meant well (they always mean well), but he needs to mind his own business until there's an actual reason to step in. People (yes, even women! Yes, even aging women!) wait at bus stops before dawn all the time. I've walked 14 blocks in a troubled city before dawn. The odds are slim that your mother will ever actually be bothered, even in a bad neighborhood, so I hope it didn't make you or her worry more.
Hey, men folks? Help me out if it looks like I'm in danger, but otherwise, spare me the "what's a little lady like you doing out at this hour?" b.s. I have a paycheck to earn, and you presuming to "warn" me about street dangers serves zero purpose, except maybe for you to pat yourself on the back.
Yeah, don't you just hate it when young men attempt to show concern for the well-being of older women?
Yes, when we come across a person who shows compassion for others, we are always wondering what's up. I have noticed since I got older, 60 years old, that the younger people seem to want to keep an eye out for me. I am thinking in this college town that I represent "grandma" and they are treating me like they would their own "grandma" and I actually don't mind that at all. So many bad things are said about youth today and this is a positive tale. This is exactly the kind of young man you want walking the streets that you must walk.
A few years ago I was driving on a steep winding road a couple of miles from my house when I saw a woman walking her two dogs down the road. It's a narrow road with a drop off and she was walking well in the road. I stopped and told her that it was a dangerous road to walk because of the narrowness and blind curves. I told her that a BLM road was only a hundred ways away and had no traffic whatsoever. She listened but was obviously resentful of my suggestion. A ways down the road I saw an out of state car parked.
No one walks or rides on this section of the road. Common sense prevents it. I stopped because of her dogs. They were on leashes but they could walk well into the road. This road rarely sees a tourist.
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I would have smiled and said "Thank you young man, that's why I have "Mr. Smith and Mr. Wesson with me," and patted my handbag. If his intentions were good, he would be reassured that she could take care of herself and if not, it may make him think twice about doing anything.
As long as your mother stays aware of her surroundings, I'm sure she'll be fine. Get her one of those very loud body alarms that she can blow if there is a problem - it might not actually do anything but it will make her feel better (if she is concerned in the first place) and the noise definitely attracts attention.
Thanks everyone. My mother boss didn't fix the problem when brought to his attention. However, after much concern, my mother spoke to one of the other bosses who's friends with the top person in charge and he was able to fix it.
btw Since it was brought up, yes, there are parking lots only a few blocks away, but downtown where she works, these spots are pretty expensive ($20+ a day), good everything was settled as that was the only other option. Thanks everyone.
Mace, pepper spray and stun guns are not that good, a can of wasp and hornet spray that shoots a 20 foot stream is better, you don't have to be as close to an attacker to use it and spraying the eyes will **** their day up.
My mother job has requested that her and a select few cannot drive into work for a few months due to work being done in the parking lot, so her only option for now is to catch the bus.
Well, she has to be outside by herself, at 5 am to catch the bus in order to make it to work on time. Last week, she said a young guy (looked about 19) passed by as the bus was coming, and he said to her, "Ma'am, WHAT ARE YOU DOING!? Don't you know it's too dangerous to be out here, early in the morning by yourself?" (not an angry tone, but serious tone)
Of course, she is dressed for work (she's a secretary), so you'd naturally assume she's out there on her way to work. She is 62, but not old looking, more of a young 62 (still in shape, gets around well, so not the helpless old lady look.)
A few people told her he might have overheard someone saying they were going to attack her, so tried to give a warning, but who knows. Personally, what would you make of it--warning, general statement of concern or what?
This is one of the largest cities where crime happens often, but still, if someone is dressed for work, why make such a statement.. I'd think you'd realize it's their only option to get to work...
He was likely giving good advice. Who cares how she was dressed....You stated that it is a high crime area....at 5am it is still dark....I would be trying to figure out how to resolve her having to be out standing alone at dawn asap...
You should be focusing on the truth of what this young man said rather than the why....I think it was simply a young man thinking to advise your Mom. And, it worked....pay attention to what you can do now to remedy this situation for your Mom. And....cant they park near her work, so that she can still drive?? Hope it all works out. Good luck on this
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