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Considering i know a few couples in open, swinging, and cuckold type marriages, i would wait until the person's spouse asked me specifically if i had ever seen or suspected anything.
There are some people out there that are naturally affectionate. Also, are you sure they snuggled and not just hugged? As for kissing, was it a peck on the cheek or a total make out session?
If you saw me with someone else (girl or boy) you'd think I'm in a romantic relationship with them, when in reality I'm just a friendly affectionate person. I don't kiss others but I do hug A LOT. Maybe it's just me, but I find it impossible to cheat, I love my husband too much.
Someone should speak out, if not you then who? But do it responsibly. Approach your friend and tell him, but make sure that he does not let anyone know you were the one who exposed the expose.
I would tell, he is your friend. He will feel a fool if you never old him but always knew about the infidelity.
Too bad you didn't surreptitiously snap their picture. This would have raised it from the realm of gossip to actual proof of what you saw.
If you are good friends with the man whose wife you saw, I think you should tell him. Furthermore, I would suggest not doing it anonymously, but face to face. (Your report will be far more believable if it comes from someone he personally knows than if it comes from some unknown e-mailer who, for all he knows, could be a prankster or a troll.) Tell him exactly when and where this took place, and exactly what you saw -- not your opinions, or speculation, but only what you saw with your own eyes. Also, convey a sense of concern. Say something like "I'm not trying to stir up trouble, but I just thought you should know." And then back off and let him deal with it from there.
Whats The Chance you kiss your sister or brother the way you do your illicit lover??? I have caught cheaters and done both.. walked up and confronted and quietly walked away and told later.. Cheaters are scum no matter the BS reason they give.. Not Happy Leave and then find your next lover..
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You had better be sure of what you saw before you tell him. If they were simply eating and drinking at lunch, they could just be co-workers. You said they were kissing, was it a quick peck like "hello" or "goodbye" peck? Could it be that the man is a sibling or relative and they were just visiting? If you are sure that it was romantic and not just a casual peck, if you are a good friend you should definitely say something.
Personally, if I was CERTAIN about the inappropriateness of the situation, I might have approached the table and said "Hi Sally, I don't believe I've met your friend. I'm Bamablue, Sally's husband's friend from (insert where you know husband from)" and stick out your hand. It would be fun to watch the color drain from her face. Then of course I might let her sweat it for a day or two before I go see her hubby. But that's just me... On the other hand, she might just say in reply "Hi Bama, good to see you again. Have you met my brother from Chicago".
Cheaters are scumbags..Burning them!! Post The Picture On Face Book..
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wow....I think it's 50/50 split on the advice.
If it was ME, I'd want to know. If I had a friend or sister know or even suspect my husband was cheating and did not tell me, well I would be extremely angry with them. I can't understand women or men who say they would NOT want to know. I would probably cut my own sister out of my life for not having my back. It would hurt me more if my sister did not tell me than the cheating itself! As far as best friend, that would make me feel they don't have my back and they let me get blind sided not giving me time to prepare.
I guess the best thing to do is think about your friendship with this person. Is this person close to you? Do you have history? Would he tell you? What is his personality? Is he the type that you think would want to know? If yes, then tell him you saw so and so when you were out to lunch. You didn't get a chance to say hi to her and her friend. Hopefully this opens up the conversation. If he says who was she with? You say some dude.
If all else fails and you can't get this off your mind then tell him that. Say, man I'm kinda in a weird position right now. It's probably nothing and I may be way off base here and I probably should mind my own business but this is bugging me.....then just say I saw so and so and it looked cozy from where I was sitting.....
I still think it would be a good idea to take your friend out to pizza and just casually bring up that you saw a coworker's wife out with another guy and see how your friend responds. You'll kinda get an idea if he would want someone to tell him.
I really don't agree with the posts that say to approach this guys wife and talk with her about it. She may say, "I wasn't there" or "it was a group of coworker's at lunch and we were just finishing coffee and getting ready to leave". I think she will downplay this and may tell her husband that your friend is trying to cause trouble. It can turn in to a he said, she said and fighting starts and OP would be blamed.
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