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How interesting do you need people to be? Adults have bills to pay, family obligations, and other responsibilities that they need to take care of. Not everyone wants or is able to do the things that they could as a student in the college bubble.
Most people just become comfortable living the conventional 9-5 homebody life. If you're looking for people outside that bubble you have to get involved in activities that many single and youthful people get involved in. For me it's snowboarding and skiing in the winter, and this summer I'm planning on playing beach volleyball at the NJ shore.
I would probably be more interesting if I had as much free time now as I did in college. But, a lot of head space is taken up with bills, home repairs/maintenance, work, cooking, etc. I'm still very interested in my hobbies, but most of my friends aren't so much (they have their own, different hobbies). So, what we're left with in common has changed a lot since college.
People who actually thought for themselves now increasingly have become mindless reality TV watching drones.
Wow. Judge-y much?
They've grown up. Their lives have changed and their responsibilities have increased. I know that there are some days that wear me down so much that by 9 pm, all I have the energy for is some mindless TV.
Luckily, I've surrounded myself with friends who don't look down on me for that.
In college I had more energy and more time to, I suppose, be interesting enough for my friends. Now I mostly have time to go to work, take care of elderly in-laws with health issues, pay bills, and once in awhile I get to be a mindless drone in front of the tube. The elderly in-laws came on the heels of getting our kids started in life. Youngest kid out the door and then comes one parent in law with cancer and the other with heart problems. Not only do we need to care for them, we are also trying to upkeep the house they can no longer maintain themselves but refuse to move out of into something they can better handle (smaller house, one story, less yard, etc).
That nest wasn't empty long enough to get back to being interesting.
All three of my kids are college aged though; two have graduated and the other is halfway there. Being of the apparent college age criteria, they're pretty interesting; that is, when there's any time to actually see them.
How interesting do you need people to be? Adults have bills to pay, family obligations, and other responsibilities that they need to take care of. Not everyone wants or is able to do the things that they could as a student in the college bubble.
That's certainly true, but just because you have more responsibilities doesn't seem like a reason to change who you are fundamentally as a person. I would think an interesting person would remain interesting no matter how mundane the task (or at least their outlook on it).
It's that drastic change I'm trying to pin down, not so much the activities.
An analogy would be like a person who loves running suddenly stopping and gaining 300 lbs. Then trying to suggest sitting all day in a brand of chair is really where it's at because somebody on TV told them so.
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Originally Posted by apexgds
They've grown up. Their lives have changed and their responsibilities have increased. I know that there are some days that wear me down so much that by 9 pm, all I have the energy for is some mindless TV.
I don't really associate the will or desire to think for myself and being grown up. I'm pretty sure those two things are very different.
I noticed you said some mindless TV, not all. It's an important distinction.
Assuming it's largely a case of increased responsibilities it seems to me that if you have to give up most everything you once enjoyed then that's a recipe for a terrible life.
Life changed for me drastically since I have been out of college. Now we work and pay bills. It was not a change in personality but a change in priorities.
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