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I am a teen, I hang out with my friends for many times but this time it's the first time to hang out with girls only. They are two cousins. I knew them in a business course and I asked them to hang out. They agreed. So what will I do now? Where to go and what things we would talk about? Also what about " the payment staff"? Should I always buy them their staff like food coffee cinema tickets... ? I don't know how things go up so please an advice and thanks for helping. Sorry for bad English
Usually, a date is just two people. What you're describing is a threesome. Two of the three (the cousins) presumably already know each other pretty well. So what they would probably like to do (since they agreed to hang out with you) is to get to know you better, and give you an opportunity to get to know them better.
I'm certainly not opposed to going to the movies, but you'll have better opportunities for conversation if you pick another activity. Do they like art? Take them to a museum. Sports? Go to a baseball game. Nature? Go for a walk in the park or a hike on a trail. You get the idea. And while you're doing these things, your shared experience will give you things to talk about.
It might be nice to pay for a portion of their expenses (such as the admission fee to the museum) but not the whole cost of the entire outing; I would save that until you figure out which of the two girls (if either) you'd like to focus your dating energies on.
Good luck, and I hope you all have an enjoyable time together.
If you're just hanging out with them as friends, you shouldn't pay for anything for them. You probably don't really need a huge plan about where you're going and what you're going to do. Have a few suggestions ready and just see where the day takes you.
Hanging out with two friends with the intention of figuring out which one you're going to flirt with is going to make the other one feel like a 3rd wheel and potentially hurt.
Thank you BM that's a great advice you have just shared��
also thank you Murk, that's an important point " feel likel a 3rd wheel " so what i am going to do is treat them both with the same level and figure out which one do i really want to date. Then that one will dae here alone as to avoid threesome also ��
Is English your second language? Are you a newcomer to America? If so, this can actually work to your favor in terms of conversation. Many Americans enjoy explaining our cultural quirks to overseas visitors. All you have to do is ask. "I don't understand [something about our culture that you don't understand]" and let them explain it to you.
One word of caution, though. Many Americans get defensive when an international visitor criticizes our country, even if we happen to share the same criticism. So you'd do better to limit your comments or questions to things about America that you enjoy or like, and simply want more information about. This goes for simple observations as well. "Americans seem much friendlier to strangers than people in my country" will go over much better than "Americans seem much fatter than people in my country."
BUS MAN I did not criticize your country, America. What's the thing you realized I said about the country or even the culture. I am not talking about any of them. I just posted in this forum as to have more experience no more nor less. I asked, you answered and also Murk, and I thank you both, that's simple. And yes you're right English is my second language. So I said sorry for my bad English if someone did not get what I want to explain precisely. Nice to talk to you BUS MAN ☺
BUS MAN I did not criticize your country, America. What's the thing you realized I said about the country or even the culture. I am not talking about any of them. I just posted in this forum as to have more experience no more nor less. I asked, you answered and also Murk, and I thank you both, that's simple. And yes you're right English is my second language. So I said sorry for my bad English if someone did not get what I want to explain precisely. Nice to talk to you BUS MAN ☺
Whoa there, friend. Please re-read my post. Nowhere did I say or imply that you had said anything negative about America. Nor did I criticize your English. I simply said that you would be better served when talking with these two girls by refraining from making any negative comments about the country.
You see the perils you face when trying to communicate? Keep this in mind when you're out with those two girls. Don't jump to conclusions and make sure you understand what you're saying, and what is being said to you. It's one thing to have a misunderstanding with an anonymous Internet poster; it's quite another when it happens to someone you're trying to impress.
Oh I am very sorry, ���� I got confused because even the girls are not American so I thought you are talking about America and its culture. Also that's a good point that you grabbed my attention to. So I should refrain talking about their country or even misunderstandings. Thank you BM, I hope you have a great day ☺
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